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1)If a parent wants to serve and/or do tasks for a child, it is permissible for the child to accept, because if this is the wish of the parent then it is considered honoring them to allow them to do the things that would under normal circumstances not be allowed and considered dishonoring. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:25. See also Chazon Ish Kidushin Siman 47 Dibur Hamaschil Tosefos Dibur Hamaschil Rav Yehuda)
2) However, if the father is a learned man, a Talmid Chacham, then it is not permissible for him to serve his child, as even though a father may forgo his honor, serving the son will be a Bizayon HaTorah, an insult to the Torah (as insulting a Torah scholar or treating him with less respect than he deserves is akin to insulting the Torah itself) and that cannot be forgone (ibid.)
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Reader's Question:
There are those that are makpid to say birchas Krias Shema by the zman Krias Shema.
What is the source(s) for this?
In other words, we all know that if we are davening in a minyan on Shabbos that starts at 9am, they will not say Krias shema bizman in different parts of the year, much less the brochos of krias shema bizmano.
Of course, no one wants to cast aspersions on many minyonim in Klal Yisroel, so it must be that saying krias shema before such a minyan is enough al pi halacha.
And we certainly know that shemoneh esreh/amida must be davened by zman tefila. But I have known those over the years who were careful to daven with a minyan where they would say the birchas krias shema by the zman as well. I have not been able to find a source for this practice. I would greatly appreciate your help?
Answer:
There are definitely Poskim to rely on that as long as one said the Krias Shma itself before the proper time, even if not said with the Brachos they can be said afterwards during davening followed by Shma and Shemona Esrei and it is considered having said Krias Shma in the right time.
However, the Vilna Gaon and others are of the opinion that in order to be Yotzei Krias Shma in its right time it needs to be said with the Birchos krias Shma.
The Mishna Berura rules like the Gr"a for L'Chatchila but B'dieved as long as it was said even without the Brachos before the proper time it is acceptable.
It is definitely best to try and say krias shma with its Brachos in the proper time, if possible. (See Biur HaGra Siman 46:19 and Siman 60:4 , Mishna Berura Siman 46:31 and Biur Halacha Dibur Hamaschil Ki.)
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Chizuk For Today:
When someone slaps you on the back you get angry,
But when you turn around and see that it's your good friend that 'hit' you then it doesn't hurt anymore; on the contrary you feel their support.
The same thing is true about us and Hashem. He sends us messages, challenges and Nisyonos that hurt. But when we remember that they are coming from our Father in heaven, who loves us beyond anything in the world, and it's only to get us closer to Him , the pain is more bearable and even a source of Chizuk.
Submitted by H.W.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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1) Although the obligation to grandparents is only to honor them and not to be in awe of them, it is still proper to not call grandparents by their given names and rather refer to them as "Grandpa" and "Grandma" or "Zaidy" and "Bubby" or similar variations of these titles of respect.
If a grandparent passes away and there is nobody to say Kadish for them, it is proper for the grandson to say Kadish.
2) If a parent requests a task of a child and at the same time a grandparent makes a request, the child should oblige the parent first.
If, however, they were all in the same room at the time, and thus the father would be obligated to heed the request of his parent, the grandchild should indeed attend to the grandparent's request first. (See Shu"t Teshuva M'Ahava Siman 178)
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Reader's Question:
Are you supposed to answer 'Amen" to a [small child's] bracha?
Answer:
See archives, halachos for June 25 2009 here.
Rav Shlomo Zalmen Auerbach Zatzal (in Halichos Shlomo Perek 22:20) writes that although a regular Amen is not said when hearing a Bracha from a child that does not understand to whom he is saying the bracha (Hashem), one should pretend to answer Amen by saying an incomplete "Ame..." so the child should think that you answered amen and learn to answer Amen to brachos that he hears.
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Chizuk For Today:
The sin of the Meraglim, the spies, was that they believed "it could not be done". It is so easy to be guilty of the same sin, especially when dealing with the powerful desires of the Yetzer Hara. We must realize that even if people might think that it's not physically possible to be truly holy in today's crazy world, G-d is not limited to their abilities. Many people who originally thought it was impossible, learned to put their full trust in G-d and give over their desires to Him. Just like a child trusts his father and jumps into his waiting arms - even from a height - without the slightest fear, we need to be able to just "let go" of our desires and trust fully that G-d will take care of us.
If we do this, then Hashem will indeed bring us through the desert and into Eretz Yisrael. As it is written: "Zacharti Lach Chesed Ne'urayich - Lech tech acharai Bamidbar...I remember the kindness of your youth i.e. how you gave over your trust [when I said to you:] "follow me into the barren desert"...
Submitted by J.K., taken from www.GuardYourEyes.org
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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1) There is an opinion amongst the Poskim that one is not obligated in honoring their grandparents. (MaHarik Shoresh 30 quoted by the Rama Yoreh Deah Siman 240:24. See also Rambam Hilchos Mamrim Perek 5:3 and Kesef Mishna on the Rambam)
However, most Poskim disagree and maintain that indeed one is obligated in honoring their grandparents, albeit not to the same extent as the obligation to honor parents. (Rama ibid. See also Sh'eilas Ya'avetz Vol. 2 Siman 129 where he maintains that even the Rambam rules this way as far as the obligation, and only regarding the punishment does the Rambam rule that a grandparent is not like a parent. See also Shu"t Minchas Elozor Vol. 3 Siman 33 where he rules like the Sefer Chareidim that honoring grandparents is a biblical obligation.)
2) According to some Poskim, the obligation to honor grandparents is in effect only as long as the parents are alive. (See Shu"t Tuv Ta'am V'Da'as Vol. 1 Siman 213)
Others disagree and maintain that it is an independent obligation to honor grandparents and it isn't dependant on the parents being alive. (See Bach on Tur Yoreh Deah Siman 240 and Biur HaGra Yoreh Deah 240:34)
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Battling the yetzer hara is like grinding down a stone. This means taking small steps to fulfill positive mitzvos in the same way you would grind glass, little by little. When one undertakes such small steps, the yetzer hara is lulled into thinking that one has no possibility of victory and will not even bother to mount a defense. Such small steps, however, gradually lead to the courage and the will to act
Submitted by D.M.; Concept taken from Battle Plans
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Reader's Question:
If I need to check my mezuzot in my home, and it will take a few days, is it okay to leave the house without mezuzot for a few days?
Answer:
No, you should not sleep in a home that does not have mezuzos. Either put up temporary ones while yours are being checked (many Sofrim offer loaner mezuzos while they check) or have them checked and replaced same day (many Sofrim offer these same day house calls)
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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1)The obligation to honor parents extends to a father in law and a mother in law. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:24. See Bach beginning of Siman 240 quoting the Sefer Tzeidah L'Derech that this applies equally to mothers in law as well as fathers in law.)
Some Poskim consider it a biblical obligation no different than one's own parents, as a man and his wife are considered one (Ishto K'Gufo) and the parents of one are considered like the parents of the other. (See Sefer Chareidim Perek 12 where he brings a proof to this opinion)
According to many other Poskim, however, this obligation is not akin to honoring parents rather it's akin to honoring other older people. (See Tur Yoreh Deah Siman 240 and Bach there. This is also the opinion of the Chayei Adam Klal 67:24 and the Aruch HaShulchan Yoreh Deah 240:44 where he refutes the proof of the Sefer Chareidim.)
2) If one's father in law or mother in law pass away and there are no sons to recite Kadish for them, the son in law should recite the Kadish and learn Mishnayos or other Torah subjects in their memory, as the Sefarim write that the soul of a father in law derives much spiritual pleasure and gets elevated in Olam Haba when his son in law learns Torah in this world. (See Yesod V'Shoresh H'Avodah Sha'ar HaKolel Perek 15 quoting the Zohar Parshas Naso page 144b in the old prints)
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I am sitting Shivah this week. Is it permitted for me to read The 'Halacha for Today' during this time?
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No, a mourner may only learn certain topics related to mourning, the Churban and other sad topics etc. See Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 384:4.
(If one learns a certain thing (such as Chok L'Yisroel) or delivers a certain shiur consistently each and every day without skipping a day ever, a Rav should be consulted regarding the permissibilty of learning when in mourning R"L or on Tisha B'Av after Chatzos, as there are certain leniencies)
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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1)The obligation to honor an older brother applies even if the younger brother is a Talmid Chacham and greater in Torah than the older brother. (Rama Yoreh Deah Siman 240:22)
2) An older brother that insults, scorns or verbally abuses his younger brother that is a Talmid Chacham, and as a result the younger brother condemns him (places him in Nidui), it is considered a good and appropriate thing, as since the older brother has disrespected a Talmid Chacham (and thus disrespected the Torah) he isn't considered to be someone that follows the Torah (Aino Oseh Ma'aseh Amcha) and thus the obligation to honor the older brother no longer is in effect. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:23 based on Shu"t HaRosh Klal 15:7)
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Reader's Question:
What brocha is 'cookies and cream' ice cream?
Answer:
Similar to a sandwich ice cream, take a piece of cookie (or another mezonos item) and make a Mezonos then take some ice cream and make shehakol.
regarding the Bracha achrona, if a Kzayis of the mezonos is eaten in under 4 minutes an Al Hamichya is required. If less than a kzayis of the cookies wer eaten in the alloted time, and a combined Kzayis of the ice cream and the cookies were eaten in the proper timeframe, a Borei nefashos is recited.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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DOUBLE PORTION L'KAVOD SHABBOS KODESH
Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh
1) Children are obligated to honor their father's wife even if it isn't their mother, as long as the father is alive, as by doing so it is in essence honoring the father.
Likewise, they are obligated to honor their mother's husband even if it isn't their father, as long as their mother is alive.
Although there is no obligation to honor a step-parent after the passing of the parent, it is still a praiseworthy thing to do. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:21)
2) It is an extension of the Mitzvah of Kibud Av V'Eim to honor a father's brother and a mother's sister. They should be referred to with "Uncle" and "Aunt" preceding their names and not simply by their names, and otherwise accorded respect. (Sefer Chareidim Perek 12:3 in the name of Rabbeinu Yonah in Sefer Hayirah. In the actual text of the Sefer HaYirah, however, it says to honor a mother's brother and a father's brother, and makes no mention of a mother's sister. This is also how the Chida in Birchei Yosef quotes the Sefer Chareidim. Interestingly, no mention is made in either source regarding honoring a father's sister, though many contemporary Poskim do indeed rule that it applies to her as well.)
Halachos for Shabbos Kodesh
1) There is an obligation to honor one's older brother.
According to some Poskim this applies only to the oldest brother (the firstborn) and not to other brothers that are older and not to sisters. (Opinion of the Bais Lechem Yehuda to Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:22 quoting the Arizal and the Halachos Ketanos Siman 123 and Shvus Yaakov Vol. 2 Siman 76 quoted in the Gilyon MaHarsha to Yoreh Deah Siman 240:22)
However, other Poskim rule that this applies to all older brothers, and indeed it is best to be stringent and honor all older brothers. (Birchei Yosef who maintains that this is how the Arizal ruled, unlike the way the Bais Lechem Yehuda quotes the Arizal. See also Aruch HaShulchan Yoreh Deah Siman 240:43)
2) Although, according to most Poskim, this doesn't apply to one's oldest firstborn sister the way it applies to an older or oldest brother, it is still important to treat older sisters with respect, as it is important to treat all people that are older than oneself with respect. (Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah 240:19. The Yad Shaul, quoted in Sefer Kibud Av V'Eim page 77 in footnote 57, writes in the name of the Chacham Tzvi based on the Talmud in Avodah Zarah 17a and Rashi there Dibur Hamaschil Abei Chadaihu, that the great Amorah Ulah kissed his older sister as a Kavod to her, and he thus rules that there is indeed an obligation to honor older sisters. However, others say that it was out of Derech Eretz, and not due to the Halachic obligation to honor her.)
According to some Rishonim, this obligation to honor older brothers is only in effect as long as the father is alive, just as the obligation to honor aunts and uncles is only in effect as long as the parent is alive.
Other Rishonim maintain that the obligation to honor an older brother is its own obligation and is in effect even after the fathers passing. (See Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah Siman 240:18)
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Reader's Question:
From what pasuk do the rabbis derive that one is obligated to leave a mezuzah on the door if he sells to a fellow Jew?
Answer:
There is no Posuk that teaches us this. This Halacha is based on the Talmud Bava Metzia 102a and brought in Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 291:2. The reason for this is that when a Mezuzah is removed it causes Mazikim (harmful spiritual elements) to occupy the home and thus if the home is being sold or rented to another it is prohibited to cause harm to another Jew. (See Tosefos Bava Metzia 101b Dibur Hamaschil Lo Yitlenah and Meiras Einayim to Shulchan Aruch Choshen Mishpat Siman 314:2)
If the Mezuzos are particularly expensive or have other sentimental value you may remove them and replace them with other cheaper (but kosher) ones before selling/renting the home or apartment.
Alternatively, the new tenant can be asked to pay the cost of the Mezuzos.
If the home will be painted and thus the Mezuzos removed anyhow, they need not be replaced and the new tenant needs to purchase new ones. Even if the painting won't take place for a few days, they can be removed as soon as the original owner moves out. (See Shu"t Igros Moshe Yoreh Deah Vol. 4 Siman 44)
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Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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SPECIAL TRIPLE PORTION L'KAVOD CHAG MATAN TORASEINU
Halachos for Tuesday, Erev Shavuos
1) If one's parent R"L went insane or is otherwise incapable of thinking intelligently, they should try to the best of their ability to treat them respectfully and take care of their needs on their level.
If, however, the child cannot bear to be around their parent in such a state (as is very common in these situations that it is hurtful for a child to see their parent in such a condition) they must ask or hire someone else to take care of the parent as best as possible. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:10)
2) A good way to try and overcome the feelings of discomfort when it comes to caring for parents who have R"L lost control of their faculties is to remember that they did the same for us from when we were born; cleaning us up, bathing us, dressing our wounds, pushing us in strollers outside etc. and now it's time for us to reciprocate in their time of dependence. There is no greater expression of Hakoras HaTov! (As heard from an Adam Gadol)
Halachos for Wednesday , First Day of Shavuos
1) If a parent does something that is against the Torah and a child sees, the child should not say "You transgressed a Torah prohibition", as bluntly saying so will cause the parent embarrassment.
Rather, the child should say something to the effect of: "Father... Does it say in the Torah that one should not....?" in a way that sounds like a question and not like a chastisement or rebuke, and the parent will realize on their own that they have committed the sin.
2) If a parent is sleeping it is forbidden to wake them up.
However, if the reason one wakes a parent is so that they can prevent them from losing money orto facilitate their making a profit it is permitted, and may even be considered a Mitzvah as the parent is happy to have been woken up for this reason.
Likewise, if a child wakes a father in order that he can go to Shul to daven with a minyan or so that he can fulfill any other Mitzvah, it is also permitted, as the father is equally obligated in honoring Hashem. (Chayei Adam Klal 67:11)
Halachos for Thursday, Second Day of Shavuos
1) If one's parent asks them to do a task for them, at the same time that another timely Mitzvah (which if not done now will not present itself again, such as burying a dead person or attending a funeral) needs to be done, if there are other people available to do the timely Mitzvah, taking care of the parent's needs take precedence.
If, however, nobody else is available to perform the timely Mitzvah, it takes precedence over doing the task for the parent.
If there is time to perform both Mitzvos, the parent should be taken care of first and only afterwards should the other Mitzvah be performed. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:12)
2) If the child already began dealing with the timely Mitzvah when the parent requested a task be done, the child can first finish the timely Mitzvah before beginning to do what the parent asked (as the Halachic concept of "Osek B'Mitzvah Patur Min HaMitzvah, one who is in the midst of one Mitzvah is exempt from another Mitzvah" is applied. See Meiri to Moed Katan 9b. See also Chidushei Rav Shlomo Heiman Zatzal Siman 37 for a treatment of this Halacha) (Rama ibid.)
Holy Torah
Chag HaShavuos, is a culmination of the celebration that began on Pesach of Hashem redeeming us from Mitzrayim, choosing us as His children and revealing Himself to us on Har Sinai and on this day in the year 2,448 from the creation of the world, giving us a gift of both the written and oral Torah.
"Yisroel V'Oraysa V'Kudsha Brich Hu Chad Hu, The Jewish people, The holy Torah and the Holy One Blessed Be He are one!"
GOOD YOM TOV TO ALL!
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Reader's Question:
My wife has been purchasing the small but squat Shabbos candles that go into a glass container that fits into her Shabbos Candle sticks.
Too often it starts burning, the bracha is made and then the flame out, am I correct in once the bracha is made it cannot be relit by any means?
Secondly, lately we have been purchasing Yortzeit candles that seem to last maybe 23 hours, the worst part is on the Chagim when they are used to transfer a flame to a lit candle, any suggestions (we have even tried different manufacturers).
Answer:
Although once she makes the bracha SHE can no longer re-light them, someone else could-and should- re-light them, as long as it is before sunset. If this happens often, may I suggest trying a different kind of candle or oil which this doesnt happen to?
The best thing to do regarding Yahrtzeit candles which dont last as long as they claim to last, is to either fill the tin or glass with a little bit of oil, which will give you additional burning time, or purchase the 48 hour or 7 day candle and extinguish it after Yom Tov.
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BONUS Reader's Question L'Kavod Yom Tov:
Is one allowed to take a shower on Yom Tov?
Answer:
Showering on Yom Tov is only permitted when extremely necessary (very hot and sweaty etc.), and even then not in the normal manner of showering during the weekdays.
Hot water may not be used. Only one part of the body may be washed at a time, and not a full body shower. Bar soap may not be used, nor a washcloth. Liquid soap and shampoo, according to some Poskim may be used, only if they are watered down enough. Drying the hair afterwards with a towel is prohibited.
There are other issues that may arise as well. It is important to discuss all the details of this with a Rav to determine the need to shower and the methods acceptable according to Halacha.
Unfortunately many people abuse this Halacha and take showers, or even go swimming, on Yom Tov, and they should be urged to seek Rabbinic guidance before engaging in these oftentimes prohibited activities on Yom Tov.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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DOUBLE PORTION L'KAVOD SHABBOS KODESH
Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh
1) The Mitzvah of learning Torah is a bigger Mitzvah and thus takes precedence over the Mitzvah of Kibud Av V'Eim. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:13 based on Talmud Megilah 16b)
According to many Poskim the above applies only if the parent asks the son to leave the city, but if the task asked of the son is in the same city, he must do the task for the parent and then return to his Torah study. (See Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah Siman 240:8)
2) Furthermore, some Poskim differentiate between "Kibud, honor" and "Yirah, fear" and rule that learning Torah only takes precedence over honoring parents but not over things that must be done because of the Mitzvah to fear parents. (See Sefer HaMakneh to Kidushin 30 Dibur Hamaschil Estaya Milsa)
Halachos for Shabbos Kodesh
1) If one's father asks for a glass of water or any other task, and at the same time his/her mother asked for a glass of water or another task, tending to the father's needs takes precedence, as the son/daughter and the mother are both obligated to respect the father/husband.
2) If , however, one's parents are divorced (and thus the mother is no longer obligated to honor the father's wishes) and both parents request a task at the same time, the child may choose whose request he wants to fulfill first. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:14. For more details on this topic see Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah 240:12, Shu"t Rav Akiva Eiger Siman 68, Shu"t Noda B'Yehuda Mahadura Tinyana Even HaEzer Siman 45 and Chazon Ish Even HaEzer Siman 47 Dibur Hamaschil HaTel)
GOOD SHABBOS!
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Reader's Question:
Which shoe does a lefty tie first?
Answer:
All people should put their right shoe on first.
Regarding tying, righties should tie their left shoe first. Lefties should tie their right shoe first. (See Mishna Berura Siman 2:6)
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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1) If one's parent tells them to transgress a sin they may not listen to them, as both the parent and the child are commanded to follow the word of Hashem.
This applies to positive commandments, Mitzvos Asei (e.g. the parent says not to shake a Lulav or not to return a lost object to its rightful owner) as well as to negative commandments, Mitzvos Lo Ta'aseh (e.g. the parent says to eat non kosher or to steal). (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:15)
2) The above also applies to rabbinically mandated decrees and laws. (Shulchan Aruch ibid. See also Sefer Chasidim Siman 338. See also Bais Yosef on the Tur Yoreh Deah Siman 240:15 where he explains that in essence every rabbinical decree is a biblical obligation as the Torah mandates "Al Pi HaTorah Asher Yorucha V'Al HaMishpat Asher Yomru Lecha Ta'aseh, Lo Tasur Min Hadavar Asher Yagidu Lecha Yamin U'Smol," (Devarim 17:11), which is the biblical prohibition against deviating from the words of the sages right or left.)
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Reader's Question:
Is a person allowed to bathe a baby on Shabbos?
Answer:
Generally, bathing on Shabbos is prohibited.
If a small child gets dirty on Shabbos one is allowed to wash the child's body with warm water that was preheated before Shabbos.
If the child has a condition (such as a rash, chicken pox etc.) that makes him uncomfortable the child may be bathed. If no hot water is available from before Shabbos, a non Jew can be asked to warm up the water.
Even when permitted, a bar of soap may not be used, only watered down liquid soap can be used.
A washcloth or sponge may not be used due to the prohibition of Sechitah, squeezing. Likewise, after the bath a towel should not be rubbed over the child's hair as doing so may be a transgression of Sechitah.
(For a fuller treatment of these halachos see "Children in Halacha" by Rav Simcha Bunim Cohen Shlita chapter 16)
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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1) If one's parent tells them not to talk to someone and/or not to forgive someone for something that that person did, and the child wants to forgive them and/or talk to them, there is no obligation to listen to the parent.
The above is true even if the parent gives a time limit (e.g. don't forgive that person or talk to them until next week) and surely if the parent says so indefinitely. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:16)
2) The reason for this is that it is forbidden to hate or bear a grudge against another Jew [unless he is purposely and blatantly transgressing the Torah, see Talmud Pesachim 113b], and thus there is no obligation to listen to parents who tell you to transgress the Torah, as we discussed earlier.
Additionally, a parent that wants a child to bear a grudge is considered "Aino Oseh Ma'aseh Amcha, not acting the way a Jew must act" and there is no obligation to listen to such a parent. (See Talmud Bava Kama 94b. See Shu"t HaRosh Klal 15:5)
Based on these reasons, if the person that the parent says not to talk to or forgive is a Rasha, a wicked person, and thus permitted to be hated, it is probable that the child must listen and not talk to or forgive that person. A Rav should be consulted for Halacha L'ma'aseh.
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Reader's Question:
What is the reason for kissing the mezuzah when walking by?
Answer:
The Mezuzah, besides for being a commandment in the Torah to place on the doorpost, is also a Shmira, protection for the home from harmful elements. (See Talmud Menachos 33b and Rashi there dibur Hamaschil D'Tintarei. See also Rashi ibid. 32b Dibur Hamaschil Sakanah and Rashi to Pesachim 4a Dibur Hamaschil Chovas. See also Talmud Yerushalmi Peah Perek 1:1. )
According to the Rambam (Hilchos Mezuzah Perek 6:13, based on Talmud Menachos 43b) it is also a protection to prevent from sinning.
The Talmud (Avoda Zarah 11a) relates the story of how the Roman Caesar sent his soldiers to capture Onkeles (Who was the nephew of the Roman Ceasar who became a convert to Judaism and subsequently one of the greatest Jews who ever lived. His Targum (translation) of the Torah is printed in virtually every Chumash and each week all male Jews are required to read the Torah of the week twice with his translation once) and each time as they tried to take him out of his home he placed his hand on the Mezuzah upon leaving and upon explaining his actions to the guards that he trusts in Hashem who protects His people, they converted as well. See the Talmud for the entire exchange and the story.
Every Mezuzah has the name Shin Daled Yud written on the outside, which besides being a name of Hashem is an acronym for "Shomer Diras Yisroel, protector of Jewish dwellings" (Darchei Moshe Yoreh Deah Soman 288:3 quoting the Kol Bo. Similarly, in the Siddur of the Arizal it is written that it stands for "Shomer Dalsos Yisroel, protector of Jewish doors". Se also Zohar Parshas V'Eschanan page 266b in the old prints)
The Rama Yoreh Deh Siman 285:2 writes, based on the Gemara above as well as on a Midrah Bereishis Rabbah end of Perek 35, that when one leaves their home or enters their home they should place their hand on the Mezuzah and say a certaim Posuk for shmirah.
Some people have the Minhag, before going to bed, to go to the door of their room, place their hand on the Mezuzah and say certain Pesukim for Shemirah. (See Kitzur Shulchan Aruch Siman 71:4)
Many Poskim do not write anything about "kissing" the mezuzah and simply write that it is a good thing to place one's hand on it, as in the story of Onkelos it makes no mention of any kissing.
However, the Chida in Birchei Yosef to Yoreh Deah 285 quotes the Arizal that "one should place a finger on the 'Shin Daled Yud' that is on the mezuzah and kiss the finger and daven to Hashem for protection and to be saved from the Yetzer Hara" , and seemingly many people have adopted this minhag (at least the kissing the finger part).
The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch Siman 11:24 also writes that the Mezuzah should be kissed when entering and leaving the home. However in Siman 71 that we referenced earlier regarding touching hte Mezuzah before bed, he does not write anything abot kissing it and only writes to place the hand on it so seemingly he holds that kissing is only necessary when entering or leaving the room.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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We regret to inform you of the passing of Asher ben Taji, father of one of our daily readers, M.B.
Please have in mind when learning the halachos that they be L'Ilui Nishmaso, as a merit for his soul to have an Aliya in Gan Eden. May Hashem comfort M.B. and his family amongst the mourners of Tzion and Yerushalayim and may we all merit the speedy arrival of Mashiach Tzidkeinu and Techiyas Hameisim B'Karov!
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1) Men and women are equally obligated in the commandment to honor and fear their parents.
However, a married woman whose obligations are to her husband is exempt from honoring her parents [when doing so will be in direct conflict to her husband's needs and wishes]. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:17 and commentary of the Shach.)
Many Rishonim (including the Sefer Chareidim Perek 12:3 ) rule that one is biblically obligated to honor parents in law (The Shulchan Aruch also rules this way and we will see more about this in detail in a few days iy"H).
According to these Rishonim, the question arises as to why then a wife must acquiesce to the wishes of her husband and not to her parents, if both the husband and the wife are obligated to honor her parents.(See Chayei Adam Klal 67:17 where he asks this and remains without an answer. See footnote to Sefer Chareidim ibid. where he deals with this question at length)
2) If a woman gets divorced her obligations to her parents are once again in full effect. (Shulchan Aruch ibid.)
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Reader's Question:
What is the halacha about a woman saying a kaddish quietly to herself in shul?
Answer:
Many Poskim allow for women to recite the kaddish quietly in the women's section at the same time that it is being recited by men in the men's section.
See Igros Moshe Orach Chaim Vol. 5 Siman 12:2 where Rav Moshe Feinstein Zatzal clearly writes that this was the minhag of old that women mourners came to shul to recite kaddish.
More recently, HaRav Ovadiah Yosef shlita also ruled that women may recite kaddish, if there are no men mourners, as long as a minyan of men are present and he writes that this ruling was based on such a psak by Poskim of the former generations such as the Shvus Yaakov, Chavas Yair and the Shu"t Teshuva M'Ahava, as long as it isnt done in the actual Shul but in her home or in the Ezras Nashim.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות אלא הלכות
- one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud Niddah 73a)
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Please also continue to learn L'Ilui Nishmas Asher Ben Ezra (and Taji) who was Niftar this week. May Hakadosh Baruch Hu continue to comfort M.B. and family and give them the strength to cope with their loss.
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1) It is forbidden for parents to be overly demanding of their children and/or to be scrupulous in demanding respect, as doing so will cause the children to not be able to adhere to all that is demanded of them and thus lead them to transgress the Mitzvah of Kibud Av V'Eim. (A parent that makes difficult or impossible demands on their children that won't be done transgresses the prohibition of "Lifnei Iver Lo Titen Michshol)
Rather, a parent should be mochel (forgive and forgo) on their Kavod and pretend to not see every infraction, as the Halacha is that "Av [V'eim] Shemachal Al Kvodo, Kvodo Machul, A father [and mother] may absolve a child of their duty to honor them" (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:19. See also Sefer Chasidim Siman 565)
2) Many righteous and G-d fearing people, when asking their children for a task, would say something to the effect of: "Do you mind getting me...." Or "Would it be possible for you to go..." rather than outright commanding them to do it, lest the child find it to hard to accomplish and thus transgress the mitzvah of Kibud Av V'Eim. (See Sefer Kibud Av V'Eim page 66 in footnote 46)
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Reader's Question:
I have a question that has always nagged me regarding the Teaching/learning of torah to babies before they are born and arrive in this world. Midrash says that they spend their time learning Torah and just prior to delivery the malach presses the area under the nose and the baby forgets all the learning.
What is the purpose in teaching Torah to a baby if it is not meant to stay with the baby?
Answer:
Yes, the Talmud (Nidah 30b) does teach us that a child in its mothers womb is taught the entire Torah and upon being born is struck on the lip and forgets it.
The Meforshim explain that the Torah that each child is taught is the Torah that he/she has the potential to grasp in his/her alotted lifetime, and as a person learns throught his life he isn't learning new subjects but is rather "remembering" the subject matter that he forgot, as otherwise a person would not be capable of grasping any Torah on their own.
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1)
It is a fulfillment of the Mitzvah of Kibud Av V'Eim each time one
recites Kadish for the Neshama of their mother or father that passed
away, as with each additional Kadish the Neshama rises higher in Gan
Eden and derives lofty spiritual pleasure.(See
Bais Yosef to Yoreh Deah Siman 376 and Shu"t MaHarik Siman 30)
2) If ones mother passes away while their father is alive,
and the father tells the child not to say Kadish for the mother
(as many people feel it's a bad omen for their child to say Kadish
while they are still alive), there is a debate amongst the
Poskim if the child must acquiesce to the fathers request or not.(See
Birchei Yosef Siman 240:15 where he discusses if Kadish is a full
fledged Mitzvah which the father cannot stop a son from doing or simply a
minhag in which case he can request that it shouldn't be done.)
For Halacha L'Ma'aseh, as always, a Rav should be
consulted.
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questions are taken directly from the Sifrei HaPoskim, and aren't my
own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
I heard that there is something about
Hashem answering all our prayers when we cover our eyes... is this why
some women don't look at the light when they read Aneni [or other
prayers]?
Answer:
Hashem, our loving Father in heaven,
hears and answers ALL prayers that are said sincerely, regardless of
the position of our eye lids.
True, sometimes its easier to
concentrate when the eyes are closed or covered, and if that is the
case then they should indeed be closed or covered.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in
Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
Niddah 73a)
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1)The obligation to respect parents does not end when a
parent passes away, as there are certain aspects of respect that can be
achieved after the death of a parent which we will now discuss.
When
saying over something that a parent said when they were alive, if it is
within the first 12 months of their passing, it should be
prefaced as follows:
" This is what my father [my teacher] may
any punishment meant for him go on me instead (Hareini Kaporas
Mishkavo), said..."(Shulchan
Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:9. See also Bais Yosef to Orach Chaim Siman
284:7 quoting from the Shibolei Haleket that the niftar actually
receives a Kaparah in shomayim when Hareini Kaporas Mishkavo is
said [as well as when other things are done in the zechus of the
niftar. See the text of the Bais Yosef for a more detailed treatment of
this topic]. See also Rashi to Sukkah 20a Dibur Hamaschil Hareini
Kaporas that a Kaparah is achieved for the niftar by uttering these
words.)
If
it is after the initial 12 months of the passing of the parent,
anything said over in their name should be prefaced with "This
is what my father [my teacher] of blessed memory (Zichrono L'Vracha)
said..."(Shulchan Aruch ibid.)
2)
Regarding if these words should be written when writingsomething
that a parent said, some Poskim say not to as the written word will
remain intact even after 12 months andit will seem as if
the parent still needs a Kaparah after 12 months, which only
Reshaim (evil people) still need.
Other
Poskim are stringent and say that even when writing it is required, as
people will know that it was written while it was during the first 12
months of the parent's passing. (See Rama ibid. where he brings
the various opinions on this topic)
All
of the above applies equally to mothers and fathers (Rama
ibid.)
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own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
After
I light Shabbos candles, do I need to cover my eyes to say my personal
prayers? Am I allowed to see the light? I see some women read
[prayers]. right by the candles and I see others leave the room
completely.
Answer:
No need to cover your eyes beyond the
Bracha on the Shabbos candles. You may see the light and you may stay in
the room. There is no prohibition to derive pleasure from Shabbos
candles, on the contrary one of the reasons for the candles is for
Shalom Bayis, that there should be light in the home to see and benefit
from.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in
Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
Niddah 73a)
Today's
Halachos dedicated By a daily reader, Dr. C.S., on the occasion of the
Sheloshim of Dr. David Epstein, Azriel David Ben Mordechai Yitzchok
Z"L. May his wonderful Neshama continue to climb higher in Olam Haba and
may Hashem give his wife and family ,as well as his many friends, the
strength to continue in his wonderful ways of Chesed and Gemilus
Chasadim.
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L'KAVOD SHABBOS KODESH
Halachos
for Erev Shabbos Kodesh
1)
Children are obligated to stand up for their parents when they enter a
room.
If
the son is the father's Rebbi (Torah teacher), they both must stand up
for each other. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:7)
2)
If the son who is the Rebbi wants to forgo on his honor and serve his
father who is the student and/or allow him to not rise for
him, he may do soas a Rebbi may be mochel (forgive) his
Kavod.
However,
he can only do so in private or even in public if the people know that
it is his father and understand why he is forgoing his honor.
If,
however, it is in a place where people do not know that the student is
his father, he may not forgo on his honor as doing so will seem like the
Torah is being dishonored.
In
such a case, it is best for both of them to stay a distance away from
one another as not to be in a situation that may lead to them
dishonoring each other. (Rama ibid.)
Halachos
for Shabbos Kodesh
If
a parent is blind R"L, there is still an obligation to rise when they
enter the room, even if they will not know that you have done so, as theMitzvah to honor parents applies regardless if the parentis aware of what you have done or not. (See Commentary
of Rav Akiva Eiger to Yoreh Deah 240:7)
If
the child is blind R"L, there is a debate amongst the Poskim if he must
stand up when he is notified that his parent entered the room, even
though he himself did not see the parent. , as the
parent will not be dishonored as theyknow that he didn't
see them and thus even if he does stand up they will not attribute that
to their entering the roomand no honor will have taken
place.(See Nachlas Tzvi Yoreh Deah 240:7 and
Chazon Ish Yoreh Deah Siman 151:1. See also Aruch HaShulchan Yoreh Deah
240:33 quoting the Sefer Chasidim that when doing an action to honor a
parent it must be evident from your action that it is being done in
honor of the parent and not that you would have been doing the action
anyhow)
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questions are taken directly from the Sifrei HaPoskim, and aren't my
own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
Is
it mutar (permitted) to store seforim in a bedroom where relations may
take place ?
Answer:
The seforim (this includes siddurim and
Tehilim and other holy objects as well) may not be left out in the
bedroom while relations are taking place. They must be taken out or
placed in a drawer or in a closet. At any other times they may be in
the bedroom.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in
Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
Niddah 73a)
Please continue to daven and
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1)
Although a child is not obligated to spend his/her own money in order
to provide for a parent, he/she is obligated to personally do things
that are requested of him/her by the parent [and which will bring
pleasure to the parent] even if by doing so they will lose out on work
and thus need to collect money door to door for their own needs.
(See the commentary of the Mitzpeh Eisan to Kidushin 32a that if the
parent has no pleasure from it and simply wants the child to do
something that will cause them to miss work or just wants the child to
not work that day then there is no obligation for the child to listen)
2)
The above is only true in a situation where the child already has what
to eat for him/herself for that day, and is only losing out wages with
which to purchase food for the next day.
But
if the child does not yet have food for that day, he/she is not
obligated to forgo that in order to do something for their parent.
(Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:5)
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own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
Can
someone light their first Shabbos candle from a shabbos candle that is
already burning ?
Answer:
The Poskim do allow using a lit shabbos
candle to ignite another candle. However, it's best not to pick up the
lit candle and light the unlit candle, rather take the unlit candle and
bring it to the flame of the lit candle.
A lit shabbos candle, however, may not
be used to ignite a match or another non shabbos candle etc.
(See Mishnah Berurah Siman 263:4 and Biur Halacha).
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
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Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
Niddah 73a)
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1) Although a child is obligated to purchase food and feed
their parents, the cost of this food need not come from the child's
pocket; rather the child canuse the parents money to pay
for it.
If
the parents are poor and cannot afford food, and the child can afford
food, the child is obligate to pay for this food and Bais Din can even
enforce this and compel him to purchase food. (According to the
Shulchan Aruch the child must purchase food within his means. According
to the Rama the child is obligated to purchase for the parent as much
as he would be obligated to purchase for any other poor person that
collects Tzedaka, but not more. However, the Rama adds that one who can
afford to purchase food for a parent and despite that uses Tzedaka money
for this purpose, will be punished)
If
the child also cannot afford to purchase food, he is not obligated to
go door to door to raise funds to feed his parents.
2)
If there are other siblings, the obligation to purchase food for their
parents is divided amongst them proportionate to their respective means.
If some of the siblings are poor, the obligation to feed the parents is
divided only amongst those siblings that are of better means.
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healing of the body and
soul, and to do so in alignment with Halacha.
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courses are given by telephone-conferences and video conferences, so a
student can easily participate in the classes from anywhere in the world
by telephone. Trainees also receive one-on-one personal coaching
and supervision. Trainees who are in Yerushalayim and wish to attend in
person may do so as well.
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satisfaction of helping people achieve fulfillment, coupled with the
potential for handsome hourly fees -- earned from home, over the phone,
at the coach' convenience -- is hard to match.
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Reader Submitted Questions of interest
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Although the answers I give to
questions are taken directly from the Sifrei HaPoskim, and aren't my
own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
When
opening the Paroches of the Aron Kodesh when doing Pesicha, must it be
opened from left to right or can it also be done from right to left?
Answer:
There is a concept in halacha of "B'chol
Pinos SheAta Poneh, Tifneh L'Yemin", meaning anything that can be done
two ways, should rather be done to the "right".
Thus, although not halachically
mandated, it is indeed best to open the Paroches, as well as do any
other Mitzvos, to the right, if possible. (See Drisha on the
Tur beginning of Siman 651. See also Shu"t Be'er Moshe Vol. 5 Siman 38)
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in
Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
Niddah 73a)
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1)
What constitutes "Kibud, respecting" parents?
One
must speak to their parents softly, with respect the way one would
speak to a king. (Sefer Chareidim Perek 12 (Perek 4 in the old
prints)
A
child must give a hungry parent food, give them to drink, clothe them
and take them out of the house and bring them back inside (referring to
elderly parents). (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:4)
If
a parent is ill or disabled and cannot feed themselves, the child must
actually place the food in their mouth. (See Sefer Kibud Av
V'Eim page 34 footnote 15)
2)
All of the above must be done with a happy countenance (Sever panim
yafos) and not grudgingly with a sour face, as even if one feeds a
parent the finest feast each day, if done so angrily and grudgingly,
there will be heavenly punishment. (Shulchan Aruch ibid.)
Conversely,
if one makes a parent do manual labor, but does so with good intentions
(e.g. as doing so will save the parent from a worse fate at the hands
of the government) and speaks softly and comforts the parentall
the while they are doing the labor, the heavenly reward is great.
(Rama Yoreh Deah Siman 240:4 quoting Talmud Kidushin 31a-b and Talmud
Yerushalmi. See also Meiri to Kidushin 31)
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own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
I
have a question about Shavuos. Why do we celebrate the Torah at
Shavuos, when we received the Luchos at Yom Kippur?
Is it that the revelation at Har Sinai was in Sivan ( even
though first luchos were broken in Tammuz)?
Answer:
Yes, Hashem appeared to the Jewish
people on Har Sinai on Shavuos. The ten commandments were
proclaimed on Shavuos, and that is considered "Matan Torah" even though
the actual tablets were not brought down until 40 days later and broken,
and then the second set of tablets brought down on Yom Kippur. (See Pirush Binyan Yehoshua
beginning of Maseches Avos D'Rav Nosson for a more detailed treatemnt of
the timeline of Matan Torah and the Luchos).
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Correction:
In a recent Q&A about halachos for lefties, I
inadvertently wrote that lefties start with their left foot when saying
Oseh Shalom. This was a typo. Rightys do the left foot first and leftys
do the right foot first as when we take leave of Hashem we start with
our weaker foot to show that we arent "running away" from Hashem. (See
Mishna Berura Siman 123:13 and Biur Halacha quoting the Chayei Adam and Shulchan Aruch HaRav)
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in
Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
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1)
To what extent must a child go in order to not transgress the
obligation to fear their parents?
The
Talmud (Kidushin 31a) and Shulchan Aruch
(Yoreh Deah Siman 240:3) illustrate this as follows:
"If
a son is dressed in fine clothing and is sitting at the head of the
table presiding over a congregation and his mother or father walk up to
him and tear his clothing, hit him on the head and spit in his face, he
should not berate or insult them; rather he should remain silent and
fear the King of Kings [Hashem] who commanded him to do so."
There
is a lot of discussion in the Poskim about the aforementioned passage
in the Talmud, and many Poskim rule that this only applies to a parent
that is suffering from Dementia, Alzheimer's or a similar condition
where they are not in control of their faculties, but does not apply to
normal, healthy parents who should know and act better.
(See Tosefos to Kidushin ibid. Dibur Hamaschil U'Bas imo. See also
Midrash Devarim Perek 1:15)
Other
Poskim rule that this is the case only "after the fact", but if it did
not happen yet and the child can prevent it from happening, he may do
so. (See Yam Shel Shlomo Kidushin 31a, Siman 64, for a lengthy
treatment of this topic)
2)
If a parent is a wicked person and/or abusive to a child, most Poskim
indeed rule that the child need not passively suffer and take the abuse,
and may defend themselves and rebuke the parent for their inexcusable
actions or do anything else that needs to be done to save themselves
from an abusive situation. Nobody should suffer in silence. Nobody.
This
topic is too lengthy and detailed for this forum to give it a proper
treatment.
If
Chas V'Shalom someone is in such a situation (or in any abusive
situation, for that matter), a Rav (or competent Frum therapist) should
be consulted for the best halachically sanctioned course of action.
There is no prohibition of Lashon Hara in relating to the Rav (or
therapist) all the pertinent details necessary for him or her to fully
understand the situation. (See Chofetz Chaim Hilchos Isurei
Lashon Hara Klal 10:14 and in the footnote)
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Reader Submitted Questions of interest
on topics related to Halachos we covered, as well as other interesting
topic and Answers. Taken from the Q & A pages on the
Halacha For Today website.
Although the answers I give to
questions are taken directly from the Sifrei HaPoskim, and aren't my
own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
What
are the things that a lefty does different from a righty?
Answer:
Some
of the things are: Tefilin on the right hand, lulav in the left
hand/Esrog in the right hand, left foot first when saying Oseh Shalom
after Shmona Esrei and food is held in the left hand when reciting a
bracha.
Perhaps
in the future we will cover this topic more in detail and enumerate all
the things that left handed people do differently as well as the many
things that are done the same as rightys despite their being left
handed.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in
Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
Niddah 73a)
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1)It is forbidden to call a parent
or refer to them by their name; rather they need to be referred to as
"My father [my teacher]" or "My mother". (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh
Deah Siman 240:2. The addition of "my teacher" is only necessary when
saying over a Torah thought from one's father)
This applies
even after a parent passes away from this world. (See Kesef
Mishna Hilchos Mamrim Perek6:3)
2) If one
is calling someone else who has the same name as their parent, if it is
not in the presence of the parent it is permissible as long as the name
in question is an ordinary name. If the parent is present,however, it is
forbidden.
However,
if the name of the parent is not a regular or common name,it
may not be used to refer to someone else with that name unless it is
changed a little bit from the variation used to refer to the parent
(e.g. Moshe/Moishy, Rivkah/Rivky), even if the parent is not present.
(Shulchan Aruch ibid. See Aruch HaShulchan 240:14 who quotes a more
lenient opinion that calling someone else with the same name as the
parent would be permitted even in the presence of the parent, if it is
an ordinary name, and when it's an odd name, it would be permitted not
in the presence of the parent. However, he writes that most Poskim do
not rely on this leniency and rule as the Shulchan Aruch does)
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Reader Submitted Questions of interest
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topic and Answers. Taken from the Q & A pages on the
Halacha For Today website.
Although the answers I give to
questions are taken directly from the Sifrei HaPoskim, and aren't my
own, they are still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
On
yom tov can one light a match from a lit source to light candles with?
(it is easier to stick a match into a yahrzeit glass than a candle which
drips and puts out both lights.)?
Answer:
Yes, lighting a match
on Yom Tov from a Yahrtzeit candle is 100% OK on Yom Tov, but the match
may not be extinguished. It must be left to go out on its own.
Our holy sages, the Chazal tell us
תנא דבי אליהו כל השונה הלכות בכל
יום מובטח לו שהוא בן עולם הבא, שנאמר הליכות עולם לו, אל תקרי הליכות
אלא הלכות -
one who studies [at least two] Halachos daily is assured a portion in
Olam Haba - the world to come. (Talmud
Niddah 73a)
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