Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 Many people find it annoying when someone is continuously motivated by the need for honor and approval of others. They will therefor make nasty comments to insult such a person. This can be very painful since the trait of seeking approval makes this person more vulnerable than others to disapproval. The need for approval is also based on ones need for affection and closeness with others. In a world where people would be kind and understanding to each individual, the need for approval would be decreased.
Lesson 2 We are not supposed to praise someone excessively, even if the listeners don’t dislike them. It is likely that we will add something derogatory at the end of our praise. Also, excessive praise can easily encourage the listener to try and refute us by mentioning the faults of the person we are praising.
Lesson 1 Everyone needs to be valued and its a tremendous kindness to express appreciation to others. Hard work becomes much easier when you are appreciated for your efforts. Unfortunately, most people find it easier to criticize than to show appreciation.
Lesson 2 Implying someone has done something improper without specifying the particular act would be considered avak lashon hora (a tinge of lashon hora). This could arouse the curiosity of the listener with the result that the lashon hora may end up being spoken. For example, saying statements like "she’s changed" or "who would have imagined he would end up the way he did?"
Lesson 1 When someone asks you a question, s/he is making themselves vulnerable. They are admitting that they don’t know something. Some people feel so awkward about asking questions that they avoid it at all costs. Its important to be sensitive to the questioners feelings. Saying things like "that was a stupid question..." violates the Torah command not to inflict pain with words. This will intimidate the person and prevent them from asking for vital info in the future.
Lesson 2
It is considered avak lashon hora (a tinge of lashon hora) to praise a person in the presence of people who dislike them. This praise can provoke the listener to speak lashon hora. Even if the statement doesn’t contain praise, you shouldn’t even mention a persons name in the presence of those who dislike them.
Lesson 1 It
is very easy to learn these lessons and think about how other people
insult and cause pain with their words. It is easy to remember times
when you have been insulted. But this wontn help improve our speech. We
need to apply what we learn to ourselves. Keep asking "when have i done
this to someone else?" "what do i need to do to be careful about in the
future?"
Lesson 2 Any statement that
is not lashon hora in itself, but will cause lashon hora to be spoken,
is termed avak lashon hora (a tinge of lashon hora). While this isn’t
as serious as actual lashon hora, it is prohibited and very important.
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 Whenever we refrain from insulting someone or from verbally causing them distress, we are fulfilling a mitzva.
Lesson 2 We are not allowed to relate lashon
hora to someone else about their relatives. For example, Suri cannot
tell Yoily’s grandparents that "Yoily hangs around with a bad crowd".
(Of course, if its for a constructive purpose, those rules would apply) ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member
(spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews,
Entire Jewish Nation Onaas Devorim - Verbal Abuse
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz
Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged
for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 If
you say something to someone, and s/he didn’t hear you properly, be
careful not to insult them. Some people are in the habit of saying
things like "what are you, deaf or something". Yes, there are some
people who are hard of hearing and could be very offended by this. You
never know. Try to get peoples attention in a less offensive manner.
Lesson 2 It is important to know that we are
not allowed to speak lashon hora about a Jew to someone who is not
Jewish. Besides speaking lashon hora, it can cause a chilul hashem
(desecration of Gd) and is liable to cause the Jew great harm.
Additionally, speaking badly about one Jew can help build the
stereotypes about Jews as a whole and foster antisemitism. ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member
(spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews,
Entire Jewish Nation --------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz
Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged
for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 People
who are unusually short or tall can be sensitive about their height. To
call someone "shorty" or to make any disparaging remarks about their
heights, is about us focusing on superficial attributes and is
considered verbal abuse.
Lesson 2 We are not allowed to insult others.
Sometimes we try to conceal our insults through humor and wit. This
causes bystanders to laugh and greatly increases the victims
embarrassment. We all know what this looks and sounds like so I don’t
think examples are necessary here.
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member
(spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews,
Entire Jewish Nation --------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue:
Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz
Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged
for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 - Speaking TO People There are people who somehow manage to always catch others at their worst. Critical people focus on those times, remember it, and keep commenting on it. It seems as if they are playing the game of "I caught you". One can see the gleam in their eyes when they catch someone doing something wrong. Think about what we are focusing on. The way to motivate people to improve is to reinforce when they do things right. Notice how people are growing and improving, appreciate it. express it.
Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT People We are forbidden to ridicule Torah thoughts. Even if the ridicule is true, it is considered lashon hora. (Obviously, the laws of speaking for a constructive purpose would apply here). ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation --------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 Any statement that disparages the appearance of another person is considered onaas devarim (verbal abuse). Many find it extremely painful if someone implies that they look ugly, especially because there is usually nothing they can do to change it. If someone tells you something like "ur room is so messy..." don’t respond with comments like "well your face doesn’t look too good either".
Lesson 2 We are forbidden to defame someone who is no longer alive. Saying things like "Mr. X. cheated a lot of people during his lifetime" is considered lashon hora.
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation --------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1- Speaking TO People
Almost everyone finds nagging irritating. There are times when parents, teachers, employers, and spouses find they have to be persistent. This should be restricted to instances when other methods do not work. Find more positive ways of motivating people to do what is necessary. When you know deep down that nagging wont help, keep silent. It won’t result in anything constructive.
Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT People
Many times we can be in doubt about whether what we will say can be considered lashon hora or not. We may wonder if we are in the situation where its an exception and we should say something. What do we do? When in doubt. Silence is the best policy. ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation --------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1- Speaking TO People
Almost everyone finds nagging irritating. There are times when parents, teachers, employers, and spouses find they have to be persistent. This should be restricted to instances when other methods do not work. Find more positive ways of motivating people to do what is necessary. When you know deep down that nagging wont help, keep silent. It won’t result in anything constructive.
Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT People
Many times we can be in doubt about whether what we will say can be considered lashon hora or not. We may wonder if we are in the situation where its an exception and we should say something. What do we do? When in doubt. Silence is the best policy. ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation --------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 The sages strongly condemned the use of derogatory nicknames. Calling someone by a nickname that s/he dislikes is a violation of the prohibition of onaas devorim (verbal abuse). The negative reaction people get from being called these nicknames can be very harmful and destructive as they often imply limitations and faults. People often believe and live up to those negative names people call them like "your such an animal" or "what a lazy bum".
Lesson 2 The laws of lashon hora apply whether the person is an ignoramus or a torah scholar
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation ---------------------------------------------------------------------------
These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 We must be aware of the consequences of our words. Words can change someones life for the better, they can give hope, motivate, be the foundation of peoples accomplishments, bring joy and happiness....
Lesson 2 We are forbidden to speak lashon hora about a spouse or in-laws. For example: Mr. X is not allowed to tell his friends "My father-in-law is such a grouch". Mrs. S. is not allowed to tell her mom that her husband is Lazy... ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 When you truly love someone, your criticism and the motivation behind it will flow from a sincere concern for that person’s welfare. But even then, we must be careful how to word your critical remarks. It is not always appropriate to deliver the criticism. Wording should be a reflection of your love not of frustration.
Lesson 2 We are forbidden to speak lashon hora about young children if it will cause them harm or anguish. Example: A little boy in foster care. If someone were to tell his foster parents that he sometimes misbehaves, it can cause his foster parents to look at him differently and maybe not keep him in their home. If its for a constructive purpose, it has to be done really carefully. ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 - Speaking TO People Its important to be aware of the consequences of our words. When we say something, will it cause someone pain? make them angry? discourage them? bring tears? worry? anxious? depressed? embarrassed? Will it cause them to be painfully obsessed with what you said? What you say can be considered Onaas Devorim (Verbal abuse).
Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT People If someone unintentionally relates lashon hora in passing without having in mind to degrade the subject, we as the listener are still not allowed to believe it. ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict the act of telling tales. I.e. someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
Onaas Devorim - Verbal Abuse
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few sources: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 - Speaking TO People There are times when speaking to someone that we don’t outright say "always", but we imply it. For example "You refuse to do favors for others!" The way this is worded implies that the person always refuses. Its much easier for a person to accept what you say when you qualify the criticism. I.e. "I noticed that on 2 occasions you weren’t willing to do someone a favor when they asked...".
Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT People - In Answer to Your Questions (sorry a tad long)
Q. If we cant believe anything written about someone, how are we allowed to read the newspaper? there are Orthodox newspapers that have news on Jews doing things such as smuggling drugs and doing improper acts. how does this work? A. Based on Jewish law, we should not be reading the newspaper articles about Jews. and if we read it, we are not allowed to believe it. Just because an Israeli or even a "orthodox" newspaper writes stuff about other Jews that is negative, doesn’t make it any less lashon hora. We have to be really careful. All the rules of listening to and believing would apply. It makes a lot of sense especially with media which reports on stories as facts, but reports it through an individual or organizational lens/viewpoint. The laws of shmirat halashon aren’t to make us tremble in fear at what words we say. The point is to get us to recognize and appreciate the power of our words and what impact they have on others. ------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict the act of telling tales. I.e. someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out
Loud Lesson
1 If someone regrets things they have done wrong in the past, it is
forbidden to remind them of those past things. For example "You used to be so
selfish/bitter/broigis. Its good to see you becoming more giving/happy..." or
"you sure spend a lot of time studying Torah. There was a time when no one could
get you to lift a book to learn" or "don't think you are so great because you've
been behaving so highly in seminary/yeshiva. I remember you way back when... you
used to be so wild. people don't just change"
Lesson 2 We
are forbidden to believe a wide-spread rumor that a person has performed an
improper act. For example, reading in the newspaper that a person was caught
doing drugs or smuggling. Even though that information is well known. We are
forbidden to believe it or have read it.
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon
Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that
is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a
derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to
Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or
child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of
Jews, Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict
someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about
them.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These
lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz
Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim:
A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study
By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on
the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged
by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 - Speaking TO People When
voicing complaints about someones behavior, it is very easy to include
judgmental phrases and expressions that subtly and not so subtly
condemn the other person. When we condemn someone, we make it much more
difficult for him/her to accept what we say. Judgmental language makes
people react defensively. Besides being less effective, it causes
unnecessary distress. For example, Judgmental Language: "You waste so
much money. Stop being so frivolous". Nonjudgmental language "I think
that you are spending more money than is necessary. Lets look for ways
to be more economical".
Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT people - In Answer to Your Questions.... Q..
What are the halachos for speaking about someone that’s upsetting you,
for the sake of working out your feelings, or getting advice? A. If
a person is emotionally hurt, then s/he may share his feelings with his
spouse or friend. Each situation is different. This allowance to unload
doesn’t always apply. Firstly, always try to find an alternative method
to ease, relax - i.e. massage, Starbucks... A note of caution, when unburdening yourself to someone: 1) If possible try to tell only one relative/friend about it - so that he/she can make you feel better. You have no right telling a few people about it, thereby spreading negative information about the person. 2) The person to whom you choose to unburden yourself, should be someone who is
careful in Hilchos Shmiras Halashon and preferably the type who will
help you view the situation in a positive light. Don’t choose someone
who will make you feel even more angry . Such a person might even tell
you, “Oh, how disgusting.. I always knew that person was nasty. How
could s/he have said such a thing?”
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member
(spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews,
Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz
Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged
for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 - Speaking TO people There
is a special obligation to be careful not to cause a convert to Judaism
pain with words. We can violate this commandment when we remind
converts of anything that s/he might have done wrong in the past or by
making references to his/her family. Be extremely careful when talking
to a convert not to say things that can cause pain. For example "some
people say that only people with severe psychological difficulties will
convert to a different religion. What’s wrong with you?" or "I have a
difficult time relating to/trusting converts". This statement negates
the possibility of a person converting because of intellectual and
idealistic reasons.
Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT people Two or
more people who tell you lashon hora are not to be believed. The
status of of two or more people as valid witnesses is only applicable
when they testify in a Jewish court. Even if their statement may affect
you personally, you are forbidden to accept it as the absolute
truth. Again you may only be cautious.
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member
(spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews,
Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict someone who goes to a person
and tells them what someone else has said about them.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz
Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged
for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 Whenever you see a good communicator in action, learn from them. Positive approaches to influencing others are much more effective than insults and they save us from violating the prohibition against causing pain with words.
Lesson 2 We mentioned yesterday that we aren’t allowed to believe lashon hora even when the person being spoken about is present. It follows that we cannot believe lashon hora when the person isn’t in front of you, even if the speaker says "I would even say this if they were here".
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal
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