Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 Many people find it annoying when someone is continuously motivated by the need for honor and approval of others. They will therefor make nasty comments to insult such a person. This can be very painful since the trait of seeking approval makes this person more vulnerable than others to disapproval. The need for approval is also based on ones need for affection and closeness with others. In a world where people would be kind and understanding to each individual, the need for approval would be decreased.
Lesson 2 We are not supposed to praise someone excessively, even if the listeners don’t dislike them. It is likely that we will add something derogatory at the end of our praise. Also, excessive praise can easily encourage the listener to try and refute us by mentioning the faults of the person we are praising.