Q. If a girl is read to a guy and the guy has the same name as her father is that an issue? What if he has two names and the father has one?
A. The source for a groom shunning marriage to a woman whose father's name is the same as his, is to be found in the Will of Rabbi Yehuda Hachasid (letter 23), where he adds; "And if he did marry her, he should change name, maybe there is hope". Some retrace the above to the Arizal (Mizmor Leasaf p.110).
A number of reasons are given: Ein Horah (evil eye, Chidah - Bris Olam 447 – Heishiv Moishe 69, Chazon Ish, Maase Ish 215 ). Some maintain that it will cause an infringement in the respect due to the father, as his daughter will call her husband by his name in front of him. (Yad Shoul Y.D. 240 – Mevakshei Torah 24 p.155).
Horav Shlomo Miller's Shlit"a opinion is that there is no concern if the names are not exactly the same, or if one has more than one name.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit"a
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