- Q. Lechvod Harav. At some point I read (I do not remember the source) that a single woman cannot be “yotzei” (comply) with “hataras nidorim” (the release of wows and promises) with Kol Nidrei. If this is correct what should a single woman do?
A. Actually, to answer your question correctly a number of issues have to be firstly clarified.
1) First of all, is Kol Nidrei a declaration for the past or for the future?
On question 880 we wrote that: “The source for the Kol Nidei declaration is the Mishna in Nedarim (23a-b) “If one desires that his nedarim (wows and promises) should not take effect, should declare on Rosh Hashana that all his nedarim to be expressed until next Rosh Hashana, should not be valid.” Rosh (Yuma Ch. 8: 28) explains this to be the reason for reciting Kol Nidrei in Yom Kipur, when everyone attends shul, as we also find (Yechezkel 40: 1) that Yom Kipur is also named Rosh Hashana. He adds that this declaration will be effective only if at the time of saying the neder, one does not recall saying that declaration.
Rosh (ibid.) after quoting Rabenu Tam that Kol Nidrei is a declaration for the future, mentions that the earlier tradition was to consider Kol Nidrei an annulment on nedarim past. There is also the opinion of the Nimukei Yosef who maintains that Kol Nidrei is not an annulment or a future declaration, but rather a prayer to Hashem for not being punished for unkept promises. Zohar (Ra’ayah Mehemna 3: p. 255) asserts that the purpose of Kol Nidrei is to repeal and annul all “dinim” (judgments) and negative decrees against Am Yisroel.
Sh’loh Hakadosh explains that we perform “hatoras nedorim” on Erev Rosh Hashana for the purpose of being “z’rizim makdimim” or diligent in preempting doing mitzvos. Besides, it is necessary since people may not be careful to recite, intend or understand properly what the intention of Kol Nidrei is. Sheilas Yavetz (1: 145) indeed wonders why the need for the two declarations and offers other elucidations.
Remoh (Y. D. 211: 1) rules that Kol Nidrei serves as a declaration for future nedarim and you can rely on it in case of great need. See next question.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Shlomo Miller, Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller and Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit’a.
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