Q. See question above. Is that the best that could be done in such a sensitive and very embarrassing situation?
A. With Hashem’s help, I suggested to the family a valuable and effective burial solution which would not only apply to them and the burial place, but also to all others in future generations.
Indeed do firstly what we directed on the answer above. Then write and explain all about the Matzeiva, but not on it, the true proven reality of what happened, and why that Tzadik is buried there, and have the above information publicized and widely available, not only for the family but for all.
I remembered then again a most important and necessary task and undertaking in our days and lives.
Each one of us must write a Matzeiva for ourselves while we are still alive.
Not in a stone that not many will actually read, but in our days in the most accessible recommended media, that became so easy to do and distribute in our times. We can and must tell to our dear children, family members, friends and others, the most important stories and truly valuable and interesting happenings, purposes and reasons of our lives and what we have accomplished and achieved.
This is in reality, the true Matzeiva for each one of us, is not a stone in the cemetery that very few ever even read or see.
This new Matzeiva just described is indeed truly priceless, and very worthy, since in our days, it will easily tell our real story and will become the true monument of our lives. Yet most importantly, it will serve for our descendants not only as a historical document, but also as a guide to understand the past, and help create for them a better future, by changing their lives for the better.
And even far more, as likely it is for many of us who search for great, good, interesting and beautiful stories to tell others, it probable will contain indeed some great remarkable narratives, that then they could and could be used to bring others close to Hashem as well. That is the real true monumental Matzeiva for our dear departed in our days.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Yaakov Hirschman, Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller, Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit’a
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