Q. Kvod Horav Shli”a. Should one choose when possible to get married on Tu Beav? Is there a special meaning and importance on getting married then?
A. Zohar (2 p. 195) mentions that Tu Beav is a day of Simcha and joy due to the Ilui Shechinah. In fact, Tu BeAv is the day that the Jews in the desert merited Hashroas HaShechinah, from the Simcha generated by realizing the decree was rescinded.
According to the Bnei Yisaschar all the reasons that Chazal give for the celebrating of Tu Be'av revolve around reconciliation and harmony, whether it is within the Bnei Yisroel themselves, or between them and Hashem. It is the rectification of the sins of Tisha Beav.
Also, it is the 28th day from Shiva Asar Betamuz, that is the gematria of כח, or strength, as we hope that the incomplete names of Hashem which add up to, and is also highlighted on 22nd day from Shiva Asar BTamuz, or Tisha Beav the day when the Bet Hamikdosh was destroyed, is to be completed and restored on the 28th.
Similarly, the Apter Rebbe Zt”L explains that the significance of the circle dance associated with Tu BeAv is that the ultimate dance of the days of Moshiach, when the righteous will dance in a circle around Hashem.
Tu BeAv refers to the 15th letter (Tu is gematria 15) in the Aleph Bet (Av spells Aleph Bet), which is Samach. The Samach is complete and round. A circle is a symbol of the day upon which the civil war ended and marriages were made because a circle is round without any beginning or end or conflict.
Since the 25 of Elul is the day of the creation of the world, and according to the Arizal, it is the day of the creation of the world in actuality, then 40 days prior is when the thought of its concept was conjured in Hashem's mind, so to speak. See Bnei Yisaschar Mamarei Tamuz - Av 4:1 quoting Rav Avraham Yehoshua Heschel of Mezibush.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by, Horav Yaakov Hirschman, Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller, Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit'a
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