- Q. Dear Rov Shlita. As you know I’m looking for a shiduch now. Is it allowed or permitted between all proper qualities wanted to look for a tall Chatan? (As you know I’m not specially tall myself). Thank you and your Rebbetzin for helping me.
A. One should place most importance on such essential and critical life decisions as choosing a partner is, on other character value, spiritual and intellectual principles that a person has, and emphasize the more necessary and indispensable qualities needed to share and create a great Torah family.
Yet, as a secondary trait that creates added care and love for the one who appreciates it, height could be beneficial if everything else is also there. Some of our great Tzadikim and historical leaders as Moshe Rabbenu, were indeed tall.
See also Rambam Hilchos Sanhedrin 2: 6, that counts as a prerequisite to be chosen as a member in the Sanhedrin, to be also ‘Baalei Koma’ that translates according to some as being indeed tall. Yet historically it didn’t seem to be an essential requirement at all.
Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is similar.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Yaakov Hirschman, Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller, Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit'a.
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