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Wednesday, 8 Shvat 5772, February 1, 2012
Halacha For Today:



Wednesday

8 Shvat 5772

February 1, 2012


CURRENT TOPIC:

HALACHOS OF MELAVE MALKA







1) The Seforim teach us that there is a limb (in actuality, a bone) in every person's body referred to as either "Nisko" or "Luz".

This bone does not decompose even after a person's passing; rather it stays whole until Techiyas Hameisim. (See Kaf HaChaim Siman 300:1 and 2. This bone, according to kabalistic sources, is located at the base of the skull, where the knot of the Tefilin Shel Rosh rests.)

At the time of Techiyas Hameisim (May it be soon) Hashem will reconstruct the body using that bone as the base.

As this bone is more spiritual in nature, it does not get sustenance from any food other than the food eaten at Melave Malka. (See Mishna Berura Siman 300:2 quoting the Taz . See also Sha'ar HaTziyun Siman 300 Os 7 where he explains that this bone did not have pleasure from the Eitz Hada'as, as Adam Harishon ate from there on Erev Shabbos, and thus when death descended on the world, that bone was spared the curse and thus remained eternal. See also Kaf HaChaim ibid.)

2) Many people make sure to drink at Melava Malka, as bones (especially the Luz bone) derive pleasure and sustenance from drinks. (See Rashi Shabbos 119b Dibur Hamaschil Chamin.)

Some Seforim, however, maintain that if one drank from the wine of Havdallah that suffices and no further drinks are required at Melave Malka. (Aishel Avrohom of But'shatsh)


QUESTION & ANSWER CORNER

 
Reader Submitted Questions of interest on topics related to Halachos we covered, as well as other interesting topic and Answers.
 
These Q&A are taken from the Q & A pages on the Halacha For Today website.
 
Although the answers I give to questions are taken directly from the Sifrei HaPoskim, and aren't my own, they are  still for study purposes only, NOT for Psak Halacha.
Questions can be emailed to HalachaForToday@Gmail.com

Reader's Question:

 

 

What is the reason that a Chuppah takes place outdoors?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Answer:

 

 

Having the Chuppah outdoors or at least under an open skylight is an old custom, mentioned in the Rama Even HaEzer Siman 61:1. One reason to have it under the open sky is as a good "siman" for the new couple to be blessed with children like the stars of the sky. (See also Ezer M'Kodesh Siman 55:1 for another line of reasoning for this, which may be halachic and not only a minhag)

 
Some communities, including some Sephardim, do not have this custom.
 
If whatever reason it cannot be under an open sky, it is a valid Chuppah. Even if the Chuppah is indoors it is best that it not be inside of a Shul.
 
See Sdei Chemed; Choson V'kallah V'Chupah Siman 1, Shu"t Yabia Omer Vol. 3 Siman 10 and Igros Moshe Even HaEzer Vol. 1 Siman 93.


CHIZUK CORNER


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This section is dedicated L'Ilui Nishmos the  Telzer Rosh Yeshiva, HaRav Chaim Yaakov Stein Zatzal and the Mir Rosh Yeshiva, HaRav Noson Tzvi Finkel Zatzal. May we all strive to follow in their ways and may they both be Melitzei Yosher for all of Klal Yisroel.
 
We will B'Ezras Hashem post here each day a short inspirational thought to help us all improve our lives and grow in our service of our Father in heaven, HaKadosh Baruch Hu.  
 

IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING MEANINGFUL FOR THIS SECTION, PLEASE EMAIL IT TO HalachaForToday@Gmail.com  

THANK YOU AND תזכו למצות!
 

זכר צדיקים וקדושים לברכה

 

 

TRUE STORY; WORTH READING

 

The 350 Mehadrin bus from Bnei Brak to Ashdod is normally jammed, but at 3 PM more than half the seats were still vacant. Four young women in slacks, obviously not from the Haredi or religious neighborhoods along the route, boarded the bus at the stop adjacent to the Coca Cola factory in Bnei Brak. Rather than moving to the rear of the bus, they sat down demonstratively in the front two rows seats on the right side of the bus. Some of the male passengers were baffled; two others decided to get off the bus. A Breslever Chassid, sitting across the young ladies on the left side of the bus, simply closed his eyes and smiled. This was not a reaction that the headline-seeking heroines were looking for, having so boldly entered the mobile Haredi lion's den.


No one yelled at the fearless four, women's-rights or democracy activists in their late twenties. No one even spoke to them. There was nothing to document on their cell-phone videos. What a waste! Well, at least they might be able to take a nice walk on the beach in Ashdod...


If there's no news, then make the news! One of the young woman got out of her seat (while the three others were poised with their cell-phone video cameras, waiting to pounce on the action they hoped would come) and stood next to the Breslever, whose toothy smile would have done justice to any Crest or Colgate commercial.


"Hey, why can't you look at me?" the young lady asked abrasively, obviously itching for a conflict.


"Do you want your husband looking at other young women?" the Breslever responded.


"I'm not married," she said.


"I bless you that you should find your soul-mate this year!"


The activist wasn't ready for this turn in the conversation. She needed to steer things differently. "What are you so happy about with that imbecilic grin of yours?"


"In Torah 282 of Likutei Moharan, Rebbe Nachman teaches us to appreciate our good points and to be happy with every little mitzvah we do; and in Torah 17, first part, Rebbe Nachman says that the slightest good deed that a person does makes a tremendous impression in the upper spiritual realms..."


The activist was getting more and more impatient. This was not the action she was looking for, wasting half a day on a bus ride going someplace where she didn't need to go. "So what," she snapped.


"You asked me why I'm smiling. I'm answering you. I never thought that riding a Mehadrin bus was a big deal; I mean, it didn't seem to be such a great mitzvah. But if the Yetzer Hara is going to such lengths to bother me on this bus ride, then it must be really significant in shamayim that men and women don't mix. This morning, when I was learning Tosefot on Baba Kama, the Yetzer wasn't bothering me as much as he is now. Thank You, Hashem, for giving the mitzva of riding this bus." With eyes shut, he turned at the activist and added, "and thank you, cherished sister, for adding to my rewards in the World to Come."


The young lady's antagonism was melting into frustration. She was obviously the ring-leader, and her three sisters-in-arms were eagerly awaiting to see how she'd react. Their game plan (or battle plan) to wave the flag of women's rights on the Mehadrin bus didn't anticipate a frontal confrontation with a Breslever...


"What do you people smoke that gets you so spaced out?" she chided.


"I'll admit that I'm high, dearest sister, but that comes from tallit, tefillin, Torah, and an hour of talking to Hashem every day." (SEE VIDEO BELOW)


"What's with this 'dearest' and 'cherished sister' garbage?"


"You see," explained the Breslever, "your soul and mine both are a tiny part of Godliness. We have the same Father; you don't need a PhD in genealogy from Hebrew University to know that we're brother and sister. Besides, the Torah says so explicitly..."


"Are you the real deal or are you just putting on a good show?"


"If I invite you and your girlfriends for Shabbat...," meanwhile removing his kosher cellphone from his shirt pocket, about to dial his wife's number, "will you come? When you taste Shabbat and my wife's cooking, you'll understand how much Hashem loves you, and so do we."


Squirming and completely off guard, the activist snarled, "You're wife is probably an illiterate cook and bottle washer pregnant with her twelfth - what would she and I have in common?"


The Breslever chuckled, "No, my wife is only pregnant with our eighth. But you'll like her -she has a MBA in Finance from the University of Tel Aviv. Besides, she was a sergeant in the Artillery Corps of the IDF, an army medic and a training-base instructor in first aid. She even served in Lebanon for two months..."


"What?! Don't tell me you were in the army too?"


"Yeh, I admit it. I was a tank commander. Then I did a degree in Communication from UTA. That's where my wife and I met..."


All the stereotypes were crumbling. The four activists were disarmed. No fight, no arguments, no protests - only an invitation for Shabbat...


The activist tried one last effort. She sat down next to the Breslever. This will surely get his goat and make him lose his cool, she thought.


He still smiled, but a tear trickled down his cheek.


"Why are you crying?" she asked, jolted by this additional surprise. Her compassion was a sign of the Jewish soul that shined from deep within her.


"I'm not really the prude that you think. But I love my wife and want her face to be the only female image in my brain. You, dear sister, are a Bat Yisroel, a Jewish daughter. Every Bat Yisroel is beautiful. Please, I wouldn't embarrass you by getting up. But I'm not a holy man - I wish I were. You're really testing me. You are a moral young lady; would you steal something from a pregnant woman with seven children? By making me look at you, you'd be stealing some of my affection for my wife. I'm sure that's not your intention."


Gently, as if walking on eggs, the young lady stood up. "I'm so sorry," she said, showing her true delicate and considerate inner self. "I never thought of it that way. Besides, if all the Haredim were like you, things would be different. Tell me, are you the ones that go to Uman every Rosh Hashana?"


"Yes, I'm one of them."


"Are all of you this nice? I mean, you don't try to act like Hashem's cop." She surprised herself by saying "Hashem". Since when do such words come out of an ultra-liberal libertarian feminist's mouth?


"I only try to police myself." The bus arrived at the Breslever's station in Ashdod's Rova Gimel. The Breslever got up but added, "Let us know if you're coming for Shabbat..."

 

Submitted by daily reader, A.C.






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