Erev Shabbos Kodesh Parshas Shlach; Shabbos Mevorchim Chodesh Tamuz (Rosh Chodesh will be next Shabbos Kodesh and Sunday)
June 4 2010
22 Sivan 5770
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SPECIAL DOUBLE PORTION L'KAVOD SHABBOS KODESH
Halachos for Erev Shabbos Kodesh
1) A student who wants to leave his hometown to travel to learn in a Yeshiva or with a Rebbi in a different city where he feels he will excel in his studies, may do so even over the protest of his parents who don't want him to go, even if the reason they don't want him to go is out of concern for his safety or well being. (Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah Siman 240:25)
Likewise, if a parent tells their son to not study with a particular Chavrusa, study partner, the son need not heed their request.
2) If a son wants to remain in yeshiva to learn Torah full time and his parents want him to leave the study halls and study other subjects, even part time, so he can train to earn an honest living, he does not need to heed their request and can remain in yeshiva.
If the reason a parent wants the child to leave a certain yeshiva or not study with a particular person is because the parent knows that the person or institution will cause a failing in the Yiras Shomayim of the son or other valid reasons, indeed the son should pay attention to the parent's concerns.
If a son wants to fast for a day or longer as an atonement for a sin that he committed and the parents tell him not to as they are worried for his health, he need not listen to them. (However, before undertaking any such regimen of fasting or other such sigufim, a Rav should be consulted to discuss if this is an appropriate form of Teshuva for the individual)
Halachos for Shabbos Kodesh
1) If a parent tells a child not to daven in a certain Shul and the child feels that they will daven better (i.e. with more Kavanah) there, he need not heed the request of the parent. (See Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah 240:23)
If a son wants to marry a particular girl who he feels will be a suitable shidduch for him to build a good Torah home with and the parents object [for reasons other than if they feel it's Halachically or hashkafically inappropriate or if they know [for sure] that she has done improper things that have ruined her reputation] the son need not heed the parents' wishes. The same applies to a daughter. (Rama ibid. See also Sdei Chemed Os Chof Klal 147 and Shu"t Meishiv Davar Vol. 2 Siman 50)
2) If a parent advises a child to divorce his wife, he is not obligated to listen unless the woman has done things or behaved is such a way in which the Halacha mandates divorcing her, and in that case it is indeed a Mitzvah to listen to the parent and divorce her.
For Halacha L'ma'aseh in all of the above and other similar cases, there may be situations where the parents' worries are warranted and even if not Halachically obligated to listen to them, a Rav or other Torah sage should be consulted before disregarding the parents' wishes, as most of the time the parents [who are Torah observant Jews] have their children's best interest in mind and it makes sense to at least hear them out carefully and take their advice and suggestions seriously.
TAM V'NISHLAM HILCHOS KIBUD AV V'EIM B'ROV SHEVACH L'KEIL ELYON.
THIS BRINGS US TO THE END OF OUR JOURNEY INTO THE HALACHOS OF HONORING PARENTS. MAY IT BE THE WILL OF OUR FATHER IN HEAVEN THAT WE ALL MERIT THE REWARD OF "L'MA'AN YARICHUN YAMECHA", LONG. HEALTHY, FULFILLING LIFE ON THIS WORLD AND ENDLESS REWARD IN THE NEXT WORLD.
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Reader's Question:
should a bracha be made on chocolate flavored chewable vitamin supplements? Can they be taken before a person davens brochos?
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Yes, good tasting vitamins require a Shehakol and are best not consumed before davening
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CHIZUK CORNER
As a Zechus for the Refuah Shelaima of two of the Gedolei HaDor, the Telzer Rosh Yeshiva , HaRav Chaim Stein Shlita, R' Chaim Yaakov ben Chasya Miriam and The Rishon L'Tzion, Harav Mordechai Eliyahu Shlita, R' Mordechai Tzemach ben Mazal, we will B'Ezras Hashem post here each day a short Machshava, a Chizuk thought to help us all improve our lives and grow in our service of our Father in heaven, HaKadosh Baruch Hu.
If you have a short machshava that you think would be appropriate to post here, please email to me at halachaForToday@Yahoo.com for consideration.
קוה אל ד', חזק ויאמץ לבך, וקוה אל ד'
Chizuk For Today:
At Hakhel's recent Yarchei Kallah, Rabbi Reisman, Shlita, provided the following great insight:
"Shmiras Haeiynaim (guarding the eyes from seeing forbidden things), means that a person not only closes his eyes but opens his eyes to things that really matter.
It also means looking at things with a 'good eye'--as the Posuk teaches us at the culmination of Creation on the Sixth Day "Vayar Elokiym--and Hashem saw everything that He had made and it was very good."
Rabbi Reisman emphasized the incredible miracle and the tremendous potential that lies in the power of eyesight for those who are privileged to be able to see.
Ultimately, Veshechezena Eineiynu--we all hope to see with our eyes Hashem's return to Tzion--let us begin by truly appreciating and understanding what our eyes are to be used for and bringing that understanding to reality--if we are blessed with the physical capability to do so!
Submitted by Y.G. taken from http://www.hakhel.info
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