Please Say/Whisper the Words out Loud Mazal tov Tamar bat Sara and Tinok ben Tamar! May you both be blessed with health, happiness, and only revealed good ad meah viesrim!
I The person who is the topic of discussion at hand is obviously being killed. Such people are going about their business innocently, oblivious to the fact that we are speaking about them and affecting the way others view them. Irreparable damage can be done with every word.
II A person’s reputation - their good name - is certainly a major part of his or her joy of existence. Money can always be earned back fairly easily, but a reputation for honesty, integrity, and kindness, for being a loving spouse, a good parent, a charitable and righteous person, while developed over years, can be wiped away instantly in a flash of negative speech. Depending on the circumstances, it may be nearly impossible to restore it to its original level.
(Lessons taken from Gossip - Ten Pathways to Eliminate It From Your Life and Transform Your Soul by Lori Palatnik)