Please Say/Whisper the Words out Loud In merit of this learning may Yifat bat Rina and Tehila Zisel Bluma bat Hadassa each be blessed with an immediate refuah shleima bitoch shaar cholei yisrael.
If we consider the reasons behind speaking negatively we realize that its source lies in very unhealthy rationalizations including:
I If I put others down, somehow I will feel up. The worse I paint the lives of others, the more my life looks better.
II When I gossip I am popular, and I get everyone’s attention. All eyes are on me and now I feel like a somebody (but at someone else’s expense). (We may feel popular at the moment, but are certainly not the person who others will come to trust and respect).