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FRUMToronto Articles Shemiras Halashon

Daily Halachos on Shemiras Halashon


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Daily Hilchos Shmiras Halashon for Wednesday July 16- Refuah Shleima for Sara Feige bas Sheindel Bay
Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud
Lesson 1 - Speaking TO People

Yesterday we learned about the importance of being careful about how we speak and figuring out our desired outcome before speaking badly to or about someone. A common example is when someone is making too much noise. The automatic and usual response is "Whats the matter with you? cant you think of anyone besides yourself? you’re totally inconsiderate. Keep quiet! if you cant stop, get out of here!".  This is insulting and counterproductive. Wouldn’t it make more sense to say "I’m sorry to disturb you, but the noise is a bit too loud for me. I’d really appreciate if you could lower it". or "I know that you are a person who wouldn’t want to cause others suffering. I’m sorry but this noise is very painful for me". Or try a negotiation.

Lesson 2 - Speaking ABOUT People
When lashon hora is related in the presence of the subject, we are still forbidden to believe it. This applies even if the subject was quiet and didn’t deny the accusation. Silence does NOT verify derogatory information.

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Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE
Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE
About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation
Rechilus - A word used to depict someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
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These lessons are derived from a few books:
Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin
The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin
Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz
Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon
Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal


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