Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud Lesson 1 The torah urges the
utmost caution when delivering your opinion of someone else. Labels
such as unfriendly and disorganized can be based on little factual
evidence and yet, can and do exert enormous power in derailing a
shidduch.
Lesson 2 Character assessments are certainly important and
useful, especially if a person is looking for a spouse that posses a
certain type of personality trait. The chofetz chaim stressed
emphatically that the habit of labeling people and disclosing those
labels to others does immeasurable harm. Its very important to learn
to report facts without your own judgment and labels.
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member
(spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews,
Entire Jewish Nation Rechilus - A word used to depict someone who goes to a person and tells them what someone else has said about them.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------- These lessons are derived from a few books: Guard your Tongue: Adapted from Choeftz Chaim by Zelig Pliskin The Power of Words by Zelig Pliskin Chofetz
Chaim: A Lesson a Day - The Concepts and Laws of Proper Speech Arranged
for Daily Study By Shimon Finkleman and Yitzhok Berkowitz Purity of Speech: A short lesson on the halachot of shmirat Halashon Chofetz Chaim - A Daily Companion: Arranged by Reb Yehuda Zev Segal