Please Say/Whisper The Words Out LoudLesson 1
One
could be guilty of speaking rechilus without saying anything new. For
example. Your friend shares her day with you, "today i took my 7
children to the dentist. it was so hectic; they were all crying and
nagging at the same time." Since you are concerned for your friend you
ask her "Where was your husband? why didn’t he come along?"
Although
you may mean well, saying something like that can be considered
rechilus because you may have caused your friend to feel annoyed at her
husband for not helping. Such statements can result in severe shalom
bayit problems.
Lesson 2
One
who causes additional hatred between two people who already had bad
feelings towards each other is also guilty of speaking rechilus by
adding fuel to the fire. For example, you known when Mr. S. borrowed
your friend’s vacuum cleaner, the front of it got smashed. At a later
date, you mention to your friend, "you know, when some people borrow
vacuum cleaners, they are not careful with how they handle them". This
is rechilus even though you didn’t mentioned Mr. S’s name. Why? because
as a result of your comment, your friend will remind herself about Mr.
S’s negligence. You will have caused that anger to be reawakened.
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Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE
Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE
About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member
(spouse, in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews,
Entire Jewish Nation
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