If you are about to disclose
unflattering details about a person for a shidduch but know for a fact
the person asking will not listen to your advice anyways, don’t
disclose that information, it serves no constructive purpose. For
example, if your purpose is to convince a friend not to go out with a
certain person and you know a lot of negative information about them,
only share the negative details if you kow they will follow your
advice.
Lesson 2
If you find out negative
information when inquiring about a shidduch, you can only use that
information to determine whether or not to pursue the shidduch for
which the information was gathered. Once the decision has been made,
you cannot share that information with others.
------------------------------------------------------ Lashon Hora = Saying a derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) = Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE About
Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora - Any Individual Jew - Alive
or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse, in-laws, parent,
child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation
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