Please Say/Whisper The Words Out Loud
Lesson 1
Rule 3 - when transmitting
information, do it with the mentality of AIDING the shidduch process. If you are
aware of information thats important and you know will disrupt a shidduch for
someone you dislike, try to transmit the details strictly for constructive
purposes. When giving the information, try to eradicate negative feelings to
make sure you can give over the info with the right intentions. If you cant get
rid of your negative feelings toward the person, try to refer the person asking
to someone who has the same information, without the negative
feelings.
Lesson 2
Rule 4 - When giving over information, transmit
it in the least harmful way possible. If its a match that shouldn’t go through,
try to say instead "i dont think this particular girl/guy is for you". Try not
to divulge any negative information if you can achieve the same goal without
giving the negative information.
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Lashon Hora = Saying a
derogatory/negative statement about someone else that is TRUE
Motzi Shaim Ra (Defamation of Character) =
Saying a derogatory statement that is FALSE
About Whom is it Forbidden to Speak Lashon Hora
- Any Individual Jew - Alive or not, - adult or child, family member (spouse,
in-laws, parent, child, siblings), groups/sects of Jews, Entire Jewish Nation
Important Numbers
