Should one be mispallel for children even years before they’re married?
Certainly, he should be mispallel for his future. You should ask Hakadosh Baruch Hu that you should live long when you're young, because it's important what happens in your youth. Sometimes chalila something happens in your youth that will make it impossible to live long. Pray for a long life, certainly. Even a child should pray for a long life, and to pray ahead of time for children, absolutely. He should pray for a lot of things beforehand, and the best time to pray is before you find yourself in a fix.
When Iyov was in trouble, he was in tzaros, so his friends said to him, היערך שועך לא בצר, did you set forth your prayers when you were not yet in distress? Which means, you waited only until now to pray? You hear that accusation? So the time to cry out is when you're well! Then Hakadosh Baruch Hu says, look this man is well and still he cries out to me, so I'll see that he remains well. But if a man waits until chas v'shalom, and then he cries out, it helps also but it doesn't have the efficacy of crying out when you're well. When a man is young and healthy, זכור את בוראך בימי בחורתך, remember your Borei when you're young.
Of course when you're old and all your bones are aching already – old is not good you know – your bones are aching, and your eyes are dim, and your stomach doesn't act properly, a lot of things are troubling you. And now you cry out to Hakadosh Baruch Hu, you remember Him? Very good, it's a very good thing, but how much better it would have been when you were full of juice and your joints were lubricated, and everything was working well, then you cried out to Hakadosh Baruch Hu? זכור את בוראך בימי בחורתך, when you're young remember Him, that's the best thing.
Certainly you should cry out to Hashem for everything, long before you need it.
Good Shabbos To All
This is transcribed from questions that were posed to Harav Miller by the audience at the Thursday night lectures.
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