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Now any plunge you take, you look before you leap. By asking such a question it's equivalent to asking, is it worth taking a plunge into life? Marriage is part of life, and it's an extremely important part of life, and to be unmarried is a very big misfortune, no two ways about it. So the question of course is just a joke, but the necessity of being energetic about marriage is one of the biggest mitzvos. V'atem pru u'rvu, it's a great command of the Torah, you must get married, and you must have children.
I've said before, always seek counsel; you never do things recklessly especially buying a house. You call somebody to make a survey that costs two hundred dollars, before you buy the house your man has to survey it. He has to study the plumbing and the roofing and everything else, the heating, everything. Therefore you have to ask questions about your prospective choson or kallah, don't be lazy. If you see beforehand that there is trouble coming, then forget about it.
Once you get the green light from your advisers, then do everything you can consummate the shidduch.
Good Shabbos To All
This is transcribed from questions that were posed to Harav Miller by the audience at the Thursday night lectures.
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