You can tell by their well-behaved children what great parents they are - true or false? False! Their kids are well-behaved as a result of many factors: their genes, their environment (including all those who are raising them and living with them), their school, culture and social supports, their own free will and much more. If these parents happened to have given birth to a few kids with severe ADHD, debilitating anxiety, oppositional defiant disorder or any other disorder that affects mood and behavior, or if one of the spouses was an abusive parent or the children experienced devastating traumatic events or if any other genetic and/or environmental factors rendered those children horribly behaved - each parent might still be an outstanding parent, a person who guides his or her children patiently and lovingly through all of their challenges. Never judge your own parenting performance by the behavior of your kids: judge it only by how YOU behave. And remember that some parents have a far easier or far more difficult task than you have (because of the nature of their child and/or the child's environment and/or the family dynamics) and resist the temptation to judge them based on their children's behavior.
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