In the morning, while still lying in bed, imagine yourself handling a challenging family issue (i.e. a repetitive difficulty with spouse or child) in the exact way you WANT to. Watch it like a movie, allowing it to replay several times. When the issue arises in the course of the day, follow your script. Then help wire the new behavioral circuit into your brain by giving yourself a powerful reward for a job well-done (your choice!). Repeat tomorrow.
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