You can't make everyone happy all the time. If you stay fairly calm, you're doing amazingly well. If you are radiating a positive mood (at the dinner table, as you go about your tasks, as you wake people up and put them to sleep, etc.), consider yourself a parenting champion! After all, your personal positivity is, in the end, what will REALLY make them happy.
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