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Dairy Intolerance (Lactose, Casein, and Whey)
I found this topic interesting due to many more children have developed milk allergies lately that does not show up on the allergist's scratch test.

Having a food intolerance is not fun. It can cause abdominal pain, discomfort, and nausea. It also causes embarrassing symptoms like flatulence and diarrhea. Other symptoms linked to food intolerances include muscle or joint pain, headaches, exhaustion, and even skin symptoms like rashes and eczema.

Dairy is just one of those foods that many people seem to be intolerant of. Let’s talk about the main components of milk that people react to: lactose, casein, and whey.

Milk sugar (lactose) intolerance

“It’s estimated that up to 75% of adults are lactose intolerant.” Lactose is the carbohydrate “milk sugar” naturally found in most dairy products. Lactose intolerance is so common you can buy lactose-free milk in your regular grocery store. Lactose-free products are treated with the enzyme “lactase” that breaks the lactose down before you ingest it. It’s this lactase enzyme that is lacking in most people who are lactose intolerant.

The lactase enzyme is naturally released from your intestine as one of your digestive enzymes. It breaks down the lactose sugar in the gut. When someone doesn't have enough lactase, the lactose doesn't get broken down the way it should. Undigested lactose ends up being food for the resident gut microbes. As they ferment the lactose, they create gases that cause bloating, flatulence, pain, and sometimes diarrhea.

Lactose is in dairy but is in lower amounts in fermented dairy (e.g. cheese & yogurt) and butter. Steering clear of lactose isn't that easy as it is added to other foods like baked goods, soups, and sauces. And if you're taking any medications or supplements, check to see if it's in there too, as lactose is a common ingredient in them.

**If you have symptoms of lactose intolerance, keep an eye on food, medication, and supplement labels.

Milk protein (casein & whey) allergy

Milk is a known, and common, food allergen. In Canada, it is considered a “priority allergen” and must be declared on food labels.

So, what are the allergens in milk? You've heard of "curds and whey?" Well, these are the two main proteins in milk. The solid bits are the curds (made of casein), and the liquid is the dissolved whey.

Unlike lactose intolerance, casein and whey can cause an actual immune response. It’s an allergy. And this immune response can cause inflammation. In fact, we don’t know how many people have these milk allergies, but most estimates put it far below that of lactose intolerance.

Did you know that you have severe diarrhea, and vomit from dairy and it will not show up in a scratch test by an allergist.

Like lactose, these allergenic milk proteins can be found in other products too. They're not just in dairy but are often in protein powders as well (Have you heard of "whey" protein powders?).

Some of the symptoms of milk protein allergy differ from that of lactose intolerance; things like nasal congestion and mucus (phlegm) are more common here. And casein seems to be linked with belly fat.

Interestingly, people who have gluten intolerance are often allergic to milk proteins like whey and casein as well. These can go hand-in-hand.

Like lactose intolerance, if you're allergic to casein and whey keep an eye on labels so you can avoid these. There are many milk alternatives with the same vitamins and minerals that easier to digest.


If you get gassy, bloated, or diarrhea after eating dairy, you may have a lactose intolerance. If you often get a stuffy nose and mucus, then you may be allergic to casein and/or whey.

While dairy may be an entire food group, it is not an essential nutrient. All the nutrients in dairy are available in other foods. The trick is to find substitutions that will be pleasing and enjoyable as well as nutritious.  If you experience these symptoms, you can try removing dairy from your diet. You may find improved digestion and fewer gut issues. Or you may find improved nasal congestion, or even less belly fat.

If you decide to (or have already) removed dairy from your diet, let me know your experience in the comments below.

Recipe (Dairy-free): Chocolate Ice "Cream"

Serves 2

3 bananas, sliced and frozen
2 tsp cacao powder, unsweetened
1 tbsp almond butter/ or nut and seed butter (I recommend ”Wow” Butter)


Place frozen bananas in food processor and blend until smooth (a few minutes). You may have to stop a few times to scrape the sides.

Add cacao powder and nut or see butter of choice and blend until mixed well.

Serve & enjoy!

Tip: You can make this in advance and freeze in an airtight container.


Surie Weinberg, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, ECE, Postpartum Trained Doula for more info.

Posted 2/24/2020 5:06 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Anorexia and The Gut
Researchers now speculate there might be a gut and brain connection. This suggests that it is not just psychological, but there is a GUT problem with an emotional connection. I can tell you from my experience with I.B.S., when it flares up my emotional health is not the same.

New French research have discovered that a specific bacteria that regulates appetite, may also be playing a role gut conditions – it is hard to say which comes first – the psychological conditions that leads them to forgo eating which then affects the gut. Or does problems with the gut cause the emotional issues that lead them to stop eating. Whatever the case, they are intertwined now.

Researcher at the University of North Carolina have determined that people with anorexia have far less gut bacteria in total and less diverse bacteria. The quality and quantity of bacteria in the gut is dependent on what we eat.

In the meantime, we can encourage a healthier approach for anorexics which should be implemented while they are receiving treatment and continued after. They should be fed foods that are high in nutrients that may be deficient.
The following steps may be the best approach that we have now:

1. Digestive enzymes and probiotics to aid digestion and absorption of nutrients as well as help the gastrointestinal tract function better. Depriving their system for so long of good quality foods as well as purging and/or using laxative is going to mean their whole GI tract is messed up.

2. Soothing bone broth and aloe vera gel will help aid repair of the GI tract. Aloe also promotes the growth of beneficial bacteria.

3. Nutrient dense foods with prebiotics, grains, legumes, nuts, seeds, fruits and vegetables, including fermented foods should be introduced into their diet to build the residential good bacteria. This may need to be done slowly – everyone is different and it always wise to go carefully.

4. Further gut repair may be needed but this is a good start.

5. Psychological treatment must be part of any plan. Whether the psychological preceded the gut problems or the gut led to the psychological issues – they are now influencing each other and a strategy for both is needed.
Come let me help you with some great menu ideas and help you stay on track.

Surie Weinberg, Registered Holistic Nutritionist, Trained Doula for more info.

1. The Intestinal Microbiota in Acute Anorexia Nervosa and During Renourishment: Relationship to Depression, Anxiety, and Eating Disorder Psychopathology, Susan C. Kleiman et al, Psychosom Med. 2015 Nov-Dec; 77(9): 969–981
2. Gut Dysbiosis in Patients with Anorexia Nervosa, Chihiro Morita et al, December 18, 2015
3. Role of the gut microbiota in host appetite control: bacterial growth to animal feeding, Sergueď O Fetissov, Nature Reviews Endocrinology 13(1), September 2016

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How to be an even better parent......
Be a better parent: make sure you have something you LOVE to do in your life - ideally something that you can do on a daily basis - and make sure you are actually doing it! Your joy relaxes, energizes and enlivens you, helping you to deal far better with the inevitable stresses of family life.Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 4/11/2018 3:53 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Not all children are eager to please. In fact, some seem bent on destroying everything and everyone in your home.....
Some days you need to give yourself a big pat on the back for letting a particular child of yours come back into the house after school. You know this one is going to create havoc all evening long. You know that the other kids will be brought to tears many times over, that your marriage will be sorely tested and that you, yourself, will be brought to the very edge. And yet, you open the door. Even though you have no choice really, I say at least give yourself a big pat on the back; recognize - because you might be the only one to do so - that you are a true parenting hero.
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe

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Often, there are things we want our spouse or child to change. Here's what we need to know....
You can inspire, but you cannot control. You can encourage, but you cannot control. You can expose, teach, model and pray, but you cannot control. But that's okay, because your job was never to control; it was to inspire, encourage, expose, teach, model and pray - and THAT, you can do.
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/23/2018 12:03 AM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Nothing hurts more than seeing your child in pain. Here's how you can help.....
Supporting your child through a difficult experience (like being humiliated, failing an important exam, losing a friend, living through your divorce, etc.) does not mean helping her to see "the silver lining" or to know that things will get better. True support is allowing her to cry on your shoulder until she feels better. Just being there is what she needs most from you. What YOU need most is the courage to refrain from trying to change the way she's feeling when she's feeling that bad.
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/23/2018 12:00 AM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Too tired to parent well right now? Don't even try.....
Tired people have trouble holding it together: both you and your kids are more likely to "lose it" when sleep deprived. Don't try to do any serious parenting when you're in that state or when your child is in that state. Wait until tomorrow and if the problem still exists, take care of it then.

Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/22/2018 11:46 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Empathizing with one's child is sometimes easier than empathizing with one's spouse...
When your child is frustrated or anxious you want to help him feel better. However, you may find yourself impatient with your frustrated or anxious spouse! We expect grownups to be "mature" and always know what to do. But your spouse (and you and everyone else) has a child part inside that can feel helpless, overwhelmed, confused, scared and mad - among other things. This part can be triggered by you and your kids as well as by others and life events. When you see it appear, try to go into a nurturing mode to help it out. Showing concern and compassion brings better results than criticism almost every time!
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/16/2018 9:01 AM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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It's hard enough having an out-of-control child; should you also blame yourself for the child's behavior?
Can you blame your child's extreme behavioral issues on your own (or your spouse's) parenting style? No! Regular, imperfect parenting works just fine on regular, imperfect children, enabling them to function adequately at home, school and elsewhere. When a child's behavior is on the extreme end of the curve (resulting in severe behavioral issues in one or more settings), genetic factors and/or traumatic (overwhelming, life-threatening, and/or physically & emotionally abusive) experiences are at play. In these cases, "professional," "therapeutic" parenting - and often actual professional, therapeutic intervention - is needed. Ordinary parenting skills that work well for other kids, including YOUR other kids, will not be sufficient with a very challenged child.
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Posted 3/16/2018 8:52 AM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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You tried but you couldn't do it and now your family feels let down...even though you never promised it would happen.....
"I'll try," "Maybe," "We'll see." These are all phrases to avoid when you want to avoid conflict later. It is better to say "I can't answer that yet," or "I'll let you know when I know."

Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe

Posted 3/13/2018 3:11 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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When your child seems to be doing one wrong thing after another, remember this...
When you increase reprimands and punishments, you increase misbehavior. It's up to YOU to break the cycle, not your child.
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe

Posted 3/11/2018 7:47 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Working against a deadline, feeling rushed and pressured, can make you irritable. Before you and your loved ones suffer, try this...
When you're feeling pressured and overwhelmed, it can be helpful to support yourself with frequent little bursts of "self-talk." Say things like, "You're doing fine." "Just one thing at a time and it will get done." "Take a deep breath for a bit of calm energy now." "Slow down to go faster." "It doesn't have to be perfect." "I'll help you." This talking part of you is an inner companion that is always present. You just have to ask it for help and then listen in.
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/11/2018 7:38 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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There are some words you should just remove from your vocabulary.....
Tip: Remove the word "Don't" from your vocabulary. Completely. Now replace it with instructions as to what to DO. i.e. Instead of "Don't touch the stove," use "Please move away from the stove" or "Please stay away from the stove." Instead of "Don't grab," use "Please ask for it." This method helps program DESIRED behaviors into your child's brain instead of reinforcing the undesirable behaviors by constantly naming them.Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe

Posted 3/11/2018 7:37 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Neither your child nor your spouse enjoys criticism or correction, so how can you get your point across?
Criticism and correction are hard to take. You may be "right" but you also need to know how to get your message heard. Telling someone straight out "That's the wrong way to do it" tends to get their back up and their ears down. In order to get through, try experimenting with questions instead of statements. "Would you like to know how I would have done it?" "Did you ever try doing it this (other) way?" "Did you know that some people actually do it this way?" In summary, when you find that your remarks are eliciting defensiveness instead of enlightenment, adjust your strategy. Do you think that might work sometimes?
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe

Posted 3/11/2018 7:34 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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Should you reward a child for getting an A+ on his schoolwork?
When a child is experiencing success - on the potty, at school or wherever - resist the urge to give concrete prizes. Prizes are only helpful (in very small doses and quickly withdrawn) when the child doesn't yet EXPERIENCE the feeling of success. In such a case, the prize provides motivation to continue the learning process. However, when the child himself is excited and pleased with his performance, the positive emotions he experiences ARE the prize. Adding a concrete prize in such a case, actually reduces emotional pleasure and can even cause stress ("What if I don't earn a prize next time?"). Instead of giving a prize, join with your child's emotion, giving him a "high-5" and a big smile to match his own deep pleasure of accomplishment.
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/11/2018 7:33 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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When you happen to agree with the complaint that your child is making about your spouse's behavior......
When a child makes a complaint to your spouse, don't be the one to "second it" (as in, "Ya, I agree with Junior - you are on your phone way too much."). Doing this sort of thing is called "triangulation." For one second, you and your child will be on the same team (against your spouse), experiencing a moment of bonding. While that may feel good, it can cause enduring harm for you, your marriage, AND the child. There is no need for you to get involved in a conversation your child is having with your spouse. Any complaints YOU have about your spouse, should be made in private.

Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/11/2018 7:30 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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There's so much to do and so little time. Here's how to handle it all stress-free....
You cannot do it all and neither can anyone else. If it seems to you that someone else is doing it all, then you are lacking some important information. What you CAN do is some of it and even then, you may not do it particularly well. But none of this is a problem when you accept yourself unconditionally. So do that.

Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe,

Posted 3/11/2018 7:29 PM | Tell a Friend | Parenting | Comments (0)

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When your child ignores you, acting as if you aren't even speaking, don't keep repeating yourself.....
When your child ignores your comments or requests, don't keep asking. This only teaches him or her to continue ignoring you and it can lead to you becoming - and acting - frustrated. Instead, either drop the request altogether or change your strategy. For instance, you can get physically closer and ask again. Bend down and look directly at the youngster when you speak or just stand close by - either way, keep your voice soft but firm. Once you're certain the child has heard you, use the 2X-Rule (described in my book "Raise Your Kids without Raising Your Voice") to gain compliance if necessary.
Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe

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Stress builds when we've got too much to do, too little time, not enough help.....
When feeling rushed, pressured and overwhelmed, it sometimes helps to speak very slowly and softly. It can trick the nervous system into sending you more calming chemistry. As the chemistry kicks in, you'll start to feel better despite your heavy and demanding schedule. The opposite is also true however: the faster and louder you speak, the more anxious you'll start to feel, which will lead to an even more frantic and overwhelmed state. So help yourself: go slowly and quietly into your tasks.

Copyright © 2018 Sarah Chana Radcliffe

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Saying "I'm sorry," is a good beginning, but it's really only half of what needs to be said....
When teaching your kids how to apologize, let them know that saying "I'm sorry" is a very good start. Then, both show and tell them how to make a complete apology that includes both regret and an acknowledgment of the pain one caused. "I'm sorry for keeping you waiting. I know you must have been frustrated and worried." "I'm sorry for interrupting you. I made you lose your train of thought." "I'm sorry I raised my voice. I know it hurts you when I do that." "I'm sorry I forgot to clean up. I made extra work for you."

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