1)
It is customary to avoid visiting graves on Rosh Chodesh, as on this
day (as well as other days when Tachanun is not recited) the neshama,
soul, of the deceased ascends to heaven, and is not present near the
grave. (Based on the teachings of the Arizal. See Sefer Gesher Hachaim Perek 29:5)
2)
One who observes a Yahrtzeit of a loved one on Rosh Chodesh, according
to some Poskim , he should postpone the visit until after Rosh Chodesh.
Others allow visiting the grave on Rosh Chodesh if it's the actual Yahrtzeit, but limit what is recited there.
(i.e. They say to recite only Tehilim but not the other Tefilos
(Hashkavah) that are customarily recited at the graveside on a
Yahrtzeit. See Hagahos Mordechai to Pesachim 37 and Shu"t Chaim Sh'al
Vol. 2 Siman 38)
Every person should consult their own Rav for Halacha L'Ma'aseh.
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QUESTION:
There
is a minhag that by the chupa, the kallah takes off her jewelry and
gives them to her single friends and her bouquet of flowers as well as a
'segula' to find their zivug. Is there anything to it or is it a chuk
goy?
ANSWER:
This
is a well established minhag. One of the reasons given is that a Choson
and Kalah don't wear Jewelry at the chupah to show that they are
marrying each other for who they are, and not for their wealth or other
external reasons. Since when the jewelry is removed, someone has to hold
it, the minhag evolved to give it to friends, and it became known as a
segulah.
There
is nothing wrong with doing this as a minhag and it isn't Chukas HaGoy,
but it has no source in Halacha, and there is no need to do this if
they don't want to.
Also,
there is no need to empty their pockets or loosen any ties, according
to Halacha, yet many have the minhag to do so. (based on Psak of HaGaon
Rav Yosef Shalom Elyashiv shlita quoted in the newly printed sefer
Yismach Lev. Rav Chaim Kanievsky Shlita, also quoted in Yismach Lev says
that Al Pi Kabalah, it is important to empty the pockets.
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