6059- Elul Simches
Q. Dear Rabbi as we already spoke we would like you to officiate on our small second marriage wedding in our back yard before Rosh Hashana. As we were debating with friends someone mentioned that it is not very fortunate and lucky to get married during the month of Elul since it is the month of judgment as Rosh Hashana approaches. Is that correct? (I’m texting the shaila as you requested.) Thanks so much.
A. Indeed I wanted to send you a copy of a similar shaila (we had actually some more similar cases).
- Q. 2327 We are arranging our wedding (small – second marriage), and would like to know if there is an issue not to get married during the month of Elul, because of the Days of Judgment? We need a fast answer please.
A. Poskim maintain that on the contrary, the days of Elul are days of good will and bracha. and even those who avoid getting married on the second half of the month when the size of the moon seen decreases, can do so on the month of Elul since it is a blessed month. (Darkei Teshuva Y.D. 179: 8, quoting Bnai Yisoschor. Sdei Chemed – Chasan Vekala 23, where he mentions that his own nuptials were on Elul and all the Gedolei Hador attended. Aruch Hashulchan E.H. 64: 13 and others).
Nitei Gavriel (Rosh Hashana 5: 10) quoting Sefer Chasidim, writes that on the seventh day of Elul one should abstain from getting married.
Horav Shlomo Miller’s Shlit’a opinion is similar regarding weddings in Elul.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by Horav Shlomo Miller Shlit’a. 2019
Reviewed by: Hagaon Rav Shlomo Miller Shlit'a
Published: August 20, 2026