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Q. Rov Shlit’a. How important is the day of Tu B’av? How does it reflect on the weddings done on that day?
A. Zohar (2 p. 195) mentions that Tu B’av is a day of Simcha and joy due to the Ilui Shechinah. In fact, Tu B’Av is the day that the Jews in the desert merited Hashroas HaShechinah from the Simcha generated by realizing the decree was rescinded.
According to the Bnei Yisaschar, all the reasons that Chazal give for the celebrating of Tu B’av revolve around reconciliation and harmony, whether it is within the Bnai Yisroel themselves, or between them and Hashem. It is the rectification of the sins of Tisha B’av.
Also, it is the 28th day from Shiva Asar Betamuz, which is the gematria of כח or strength, as we hope that the incomplete names of Hashem which add up to, and is also highlighted on 22nd day from Shiva Asar B’Tamuz, or Tisha B’av the day when the Beis Hamikdosh was destroyed, is to be completed and restored on the 28th.
Similarly, the Apter Rebbe Zt”L explains that the significance of the circle dance associated with Tu B’Av refers to the ultimate dance of the days of Moshiach, when the righteous will dance in a circle around Hashem.
Tu B’Av refers to the 15th letter (Tu is gematria 15) in the Aleph Bet (Av spells Aleph Bet), which is Samach. The Samach is complete and round. A circle is a symbol of the day upon which the civil war ended and marriages were made because a circle is round without any beginning, end ,or conflict.
Since the 25th of Elul is the day of the creation of the world, and according to the Arizal, it is the day of the creation of the univerrse in actuality, then 40 days prior is when the thought of its concept was conjured in Hashem’s mind, so to speak. See Bnei Yisaschar Mamarei Tamuz – Av 4:1 quoting Rav Avraham Yehoshua Heschel of Mezibush.
Rabbi A. Bartfeld as revised by, Horav Yaakov Hirschman, Horav Dovid Pam, Horav Aharon Miller, Horav Chanoch Ehrentreu and Horav Kalman Ochs Shlit’a
Answered by: Hagaon Rav Shlomo Miller Shlit'a
Published: August 7, 2026
